Character building for your child can be summed up into these two habits: when your son or daughter is repeating a positive course of action and the other one is when you as a parent allow him or her to misbehave. You are in charge of the steering wheel here so that wherever your child may end up with, it’s all because you are in full control of it. The following are five of the things you as a parent can do to help your child build better habits:
REWARD HIM OR HER FOR THE GOOD THINGS HE OR SHE HAS DONE
When it comes to TV viewing, I and my three-year-old son are like mouse and cat that refuse to agree or reconcile with each other. I like watching informative or news channels on TV as much as my son hates them. Of course, he likes the cartoons or the nursery rhymes action songs which can be good for him.
It has become his habit to switch it to his favorite channel just when I’m into the deep of watching news attentively. What I did to resolve it was simple. I offered him chocolates every time he asks permission first before switching it to other channels.
It started just like that and now I’m reaping the results. He learned to say “Excuse me” each time he wanted to do something that may distract other people’s attention. And yes, he will do it, even without the chocolates now.
INVOLVE HIM IN WHAT YOU’RE DOING
When your child is showing interest in what you’re doing, then let him be. Explain to him in plain and simple language why it is necessary to clean the room or the surroundings. When he saw you praying before going to bed and imitate what you’re doing and even murmuring something he can only understand, let him do it. Explain to him afterwards that what you’re doing is praying to the Almighty God and that he might as well can start doing it.
FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE BEHAVIOR INSTEAD OF PUTTING EMPHASIS ON WHAT YOU DON’T LIKE HIM TO DO
Your child’s character is like a written document on a Microsoft Word. Once you highlight a particular character, word, sentence, or paragraph and click Bold Type or Italics, only then will it become most visible to the eyes than the rest. Any negative comment about a bad behavior may only serve to reinforce it.
ANY TASK YOU’RE GIVING HIM TO DO, MAKE IT FUN FOR HIM
A child who is enjoying in what he does can do it better. It makes him feel good about himself. And because he feels good about himself, he builds up self-confidence. And because he’s confident of what he’s doing, he becomes productive in a positive way. Actually, he should be seeing it first in you.
GIVE HIM THE FREEDOM TO EXPRESS HIMSELF
Character building for your child is not always about you doing everything for your child but it’s also about your child slowly transforming into what is the version of his own self. When your child disagrees with you on a particular situation or thing, you have to respect his freedom of expression for that matter. You are not a father to become dictator. Assigning your child to a task is the best discipline he can ever have, but not as something to be used as a form of punishment.