Seeing your child mature before your very eyes and start returning the investment you have put into him is perhaps one of life’s greatest rewards to you as a parent. It has been three years ago when I first took a glimpse of my firstborn and only child Nathaniel’s face as he triumphantly opened his eyes that locked with mine as if to proclaim my fatherhood.
And who would have thought I have come this far to learn a lot from it? I know it will take time to be an effective parent, but it’s good to enjoy every moment of it while you learn at the same time. The following are just four of the important things becoming a father had taught me:
IT IS IMPORTANT TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF FOR YOUR CHILDREN
You are the role model for your children who will mirror everything you demonstrate before them. If you show them love and compassion, they would grow up to be loving and compassionate persons as well. If you have low self-esteem, they would feel the same way about themselves.
IT IS IMPORTANT TO ESTABLISH STRONG FAMILY LEADERSHIP
As the head of the family, a father should be taking full responsibility for guiding and directing his family members. He must be respected as a leader, or else the family would most likely suffer from emotional issues more than when his authority is missing.
IT IS IMPORTANT TO BECOME SUFFICIENTLY MATURE TO THINGS THAT NEED TO BE UNDERSTOOD WELL
A good father should be a good husband in the first place. He must learn to understand the complexities of a marriage and to do the things that simplify them. He must love his children, not to compete with the feelings he has had for his wife or vice versa, but as a way of strengthening such a bond that ties a family together. Your child needs two parents who love each other more than just two parents who are only there to love him.
IT IS IMPORTANT TO CONSIDER THAT IT’S OKAY TO BE NOT PERFECT
Forget about perfection as there’s no such thing as a perfect parent. There will always be problems to face along the way and things that need to be addressed. A good parent will recognize the problem, willing to find a solution, and accepts shortcomings or failures fairly. For him, these are but just an opportunity to learn something new and as a part of the growth process.