Nathaniel was one hyperactive toddler. He spends a lot of energy moving, giggling, screaming, playing, slapping, and doing what he likes. He scatters toys I had just arranged for him and throws things at the window.
He dribbles a ball and breaks glasses by throwing that ball everywhere. While this behavior is normal for a toddler, not all people will come to view it as such. I had to admit I had spanked my own son at the buttocks a couple of times already and that’s when I’m losing my patience or temper.
There was even a time when he stayed away from me for a while because he was afraid I would hit him again. That’s when I realized I had gone too far or I may have been doing it wrong for him. Anyways, here’s why the physical form of punishment to discipline a child is not the best option:
YOUR CHILD IS NOT A BEAST
You may disagree with me and I’m fine with it, but I strongly feel that the physical form of punishment will work out better on the lower form of animals which only have instincts to rely on. Human beings are special, a cut above the rest. Human beings are the only species in the animal kingdom who are capable of rational thinking.
The application of physical form of punishment to tame down unwanted human behavior may work out at times, but only temporary. The psychological impact resulting from physical abuse endured by these children could left a permanent scar in their beings which they will carry throughout their lifetime whether they are successful in their chosen field or not.
IT WILL NOT MAKE YOUR CHILD A BETTER PERSON
There was an old adage people are buying to sugarcoat or even promote the application of physical form of punishment in humans and especially the little ones. “When the body suffers,” the adage says, “the spirit flowers.” While this may ring true to some people, it’s not always the best form of discipline there is.
A lot of people who are product of parents known to use physical form of punishment to discipline their children tend to continue the cycle into their own children. The psychological conditioning they have acquired through their battered childhood will continue to feed their minds with something that stimulate craving for more physical assault on their subjects.
The point is, in dealing with really difficult children, when the need to inflict a little pain upon them is high in order to teach them a lesson, make sure that they understand clearly why you are punishing them. But a heart-to-heart talk with your misbehaving child explaining to him why he should not be acting that way again and that you’re raising that issue about him because you love him is the best way to do it.
The use of physical form of punishment to discipline a child will not make him a better person. You can’t make him a better person by simply pressuring him or smacking him each time. But when you’re encouraging and dealing with him patiently, then you’re doing it right for him.
ISOLATION IS THE BEST FORM OF DISCIPLINE FOR YOUR GROWING CHILDREN
When your children do not behave the way you wanted them to or the way they should, it could only mean one thing: they don’t know how to act in a community. The family is your children’s first community. You have to isolate who is that family member of yours who doesn’t know how to act accordingly and to talk to him about it.
So whenever one of your children behaved badly, keep your cool. Isolate him or her, or you could ask someone else close to him or her to cheer him or her up to divert his or her attention. It is recommended that you have to talk it out to him or her.
I hope this article was able to shed some light on why the physical form of punishment to discipline a child is not the best option. Simple as that, yet may be hard to the majority of people.