You may or may not be aware of it as a parent, but by the time your children are ready to receive their wings to leave home for college or beyond, they’ve already been spending not less than thirty thousand hours with you as their mentor. You can then compare that to the mere two thousand one hundred something hours of classroom time it takes earning a college degree. That would make you to become someone who have teaching and training with your children sixteen times more than all the time they can afford to spend with professors in an entire university education.
And yes, a lot of that time has been spent eating, practicing sports, sleeping, hanging out with friends, and playing in the neighborhood. But you’re also having time within your children’s growing-up years teaching them how to be responsible. For children to develop a sense of responsibility is a great skill that could help them to become more motivated not only in school but also in life in general. Here are few tips on how to raise optimistic and responsible children:
TEACH THEM REGULAR CHORES
It starts from home and one of the best of ways to teach responsibility to children is by engaging them in regular chores. Having them engaged in regular household chores is also one way to get to motivate them. Of course, you may find them unresponsive at first but later on they will get used to it. According to a study that children who are having chores at home and develop a sense of responsibility tend to be better pupils or students. They seemed to have developed more confidence in themselves and more coping skills.
HELP THEM TO PERSEVERE
No matter what the task, teach them the importance of perseverance. Once you have successfully instill that into your children’s mind, they would eventually be learning the stick-to-it commitment and determination that would keep them from throwing in the towel right away even when faced with a very difficult situation or task. You may have super smart children, but if they’re not equipped with a sense of steady perseverance and persistence, which are the basic tools needed in overcoming obstacles, they wouldn’t be accomplishing much in the real world or of learning much of anything.
GIVE THEM DOABLE TASKS
When you get your kids to engage in regular chores, and because you believed these would best teach them responsibility, you don’t have to overload them with tasks impossible for them to accomplish with their age. Recognize age-appropriate ways in which they can help. In other words, give them doable tasks.
BE GENEROUS IN GIVING A POSITIVE FEEDBACK
Yes, even if the task at hand isn’t done perfectly or unfinished, still give your positive feedback about them for it. Because once you focus on the effort your kids have been putting in, you’re building their motivation for helping and so their sense of responsibility.
LET THEM KNOW THAT FAILURE IS ONLY TEMPORARY
Explain to them that success is never final and that the road leading up to it is always under construction. On the other hand, remind them also that failure is seldom fatal. But it’s courage, the ability to take risk and get things done, that counts. Thinking negatively about your children’s chances on whatever challenges they may be encountering along the way isn’t productive.
REMIND YOUR CHILDREN OF SOME AREAS IN WHICH THEY HAVE DONE WELL OR SUCCEEDED
Most of the time, these could have been easily forgotten when faced with discouragement or failure. But it’s best to start recalling their little victories and make them realize how far they have come can help them build courage to try again. They only need your support for them to become more motivated, so that no matter what challenges they may be facing, they are going to face them with courage in their hearts.