Sometimes, it is good to just let your child be

 A child is like a sponge that absorbs the influence he is seeing from his environment, and from that of his parents.

No parent would like to see clutter and chaos in the house as these things could often result his or her having to feel irritable and irrational. And who else won’t love to be in an orderly and well-organized environment where you can be more productive and even-tempered? For you, there’s nothing that can please you more than seeing well-arranged variety of things and goods, and uniformity.

You like to see the straight lines formed by what is neatly stacked merchandise. You like to see neatly folded clothes piled in the closet. You like to see kitchen utensils properly arranged to where they should be.

You’re not a perfectionist one over everything, of course. But you simply just want to make the best of everything and in order. Not until your child came to ruin it all.

You started to feel not liking the way things are going. You felt frustrated, tired, and, at times, in a state of giving in for your child. And that’s where you went in the end.

Your straight lines were replaced with curves and crooked lines everywhere. White walls, that were once spotless and clean, now became a wide canvass stained with everything-you-can-imagine work of art. Of course, you have scolded your son or daughter for that matter many times over, but to no avail.

Then you remember that old adage that says, “If you can’t lick ‘em, jine ‘em.” You have made up your mind already, hoping it would be all worth a try. “If you can’t neat them,” you were saying as if to challenge your very own self, “why not join ‘em?”

It doesn’t mean you would now also join in your child’s clutter; it would only worsen the problem. Instead, you have to live with the realization of the fact that your child’s mess should be interpreted as a celebration of the innocence of his or her childhood. As a result, you started lowering your housekeeping standards just enough so as not to also disregard the laws of asepsis and personal hygiene.

Once you accept the clutter your child is making, you’re also giving him the freedom to be just himself. Which do not necessarily mean, to whatever extent or degree, that you’re also allowing him to get to manage his own affairs nor to run the house. There are limitations, of course.

It is your duty to let your child learn that it is necessary for every home to have some order. Young as he or she is, he or she should learn that order and organization in the home is of the utmost importance. In that sense, both of you would not only end up feeling happy, but learning from each other as well.

In the metaphorical sense of it, a child is like a sponge that absorbs the influence he or she is seeing from his or her environment, and from his or her parents. It’s all right to allow him or her of his or her clutter, but it’s vital as well that he or she learns about order and organization in the home.

Sometimes, for most parents, it has become easy to forget that a child is a child, and he has to act his age. Some parents would even push their child to grow up quickly, expecting him to act as an adult. What could be worse is that, sometimes, some of these parents ask their innocent kid to make straight lines when all he can manage to do at the moment is a crooked line leading nowhere.

Parenthood can teach you a lot of things. One of them is to try looking for the more important things than what just an impeccably clean and tidy house can do and offer. Straight lines don’t make a happy family, but what these little crooks and curves can do and offer is to spice up what would have been a dull and boring world if everything were in perfect straight lines.

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