Nathaniel shows an act of kindness to animals: An insight

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Nathaniel tries to open the door of a chicken cage.

When my son turned two years old, I noticed that when he’s eating his meal he will spare a portion of his viand and placed it on the lower side of the plate. At first I thought he was going to eat the viand later on but to my surprise, after the meal, he picked it up with his hand and walked towards the kitchen where the wild cat was waiting. I was delighted at the thought on how he was able to come up with such a very beautiful idea, at such a very young age, of sparing a portion of his meal to feed the wild cat.

I found out later that my toddler was not only kind to a cat but also to chickens. It was when, one time, he saw me feeding the chickens at the backyard of our house that he rushed towards me, grabbed a handful of mixed grains and pellets from the feeds container I’m holding, and sprinkled them away to where the chickens were. He even uttered something in a loud voice he can only understand as if to call at the chickens to come to him.

What I saw before my eyes was the unfolding of the truth concerning my toddler. I saw his inner self; that he was content, happy, and comfortable within his own self that he shared with the creatures around him the same level of contentment, happiness, and comfortability through such acts of kindnesses. I am convinced it is one of the greatest wisdom we could ever find.

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Nathaniel feeds the chicken.

I think kindness is a character inherent in everyone, innate so to speak; the code of which was carefully embedded in every human being’s genetic framework; that we are originally programmed to protect and to take care of the welfare of our fellow species and also of those belonging to the other species until someone hacked the main control device and changed the code for all of us to self-destruct.

The Creator of this Great Project called on his brightest men to do something about it and it was found out somebody from within is trying to sabotage the whole thing. The Creator’s right hand, no other than the Great Manipulator himself, was the brainchild to such an attempt of toppling down the Kingdom. No one has ever had done that kind of thing before except him.

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Nathaniel keeps watching the chickens after having fed them.

The Creator, being just and kind, settled the mutiny with a touch of diplomacy. He understands that the Great Manipulator wanted to be like Him, so He sent him somewhere else so he could establish his own kingdom and reign. The Creator knows that the Great Manipulator will be punished in due time, but he could still use the remaining time left for his own self.

Operation Enduring Salvation was launched to save all of those units infected with virus perpetrated by the Great Manipulator. The procedure was to implant the same original microchip into the main control device but this time soaked with droplets of the Creator’s blood.  It was very potent that each infected unit who will be exposed to it will be transformed as new.

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Me and my toddler.

It should not come as a surprise if you see toddlers who are yet learning everything but already know how to show some acts of kindness. We are all programmed in that way from the very beginning until someone changed the program for us. But the Cure is here to bring us back to what we are originally designed to.

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The greatest decision for a child

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My Madonna and child.

Have you ever had been to a particular situation when your decision making was tested? Was it the greatest decision you had ever made so far? How do you feel after you had made the most important decision in your life?

Decision making is a part of life. It’s a choice you have to make on a daily basis. When you decide over something, you chooses for whatever it will bring you. To be undecided is already to choose to decide by not deciding.

Several years ago, I was asked by a relative of mine if I could donate a bag (around 450 cc) of my blood as she was scheduled for operation and she needed transfusion. Her blood type was O. I have decided to agree on donating my blood even if I didn’t know of my blood type yet at that time.

So we went (there were three of us as blood donors because she was asked by the physician to secure three bags needed for the operation) to the nearest Red Cross office for blood testing and typing. After having known that we were of the same blood type, I started to feel nervous. It was my first time to be taken a blood from a vein of that volume.

The operation was successful and I felt so relieved upon knowing it. I was thankful to have decided and finally gave it a go. It was not an easy decision I was making, though. I had a phobia, to some degree, for blood, by the way. But nothing could describe the joy I felt in my heart knowing I became one of the instruments in saving someone’s life.

It was not the greatest or the most important decision I had made in my life but I know I made a little difference. I was able to conquer my own fear for blood. And, surprisingly, I have already had been donating blood three times since.

Donating blood is perhaps one of the most unselfish gestures that anyone could make for his fellow men. It reminds us of what Jesus had done in the cross for all mankind. He ransomed us with his own blood so we could have life everlasting, just like the way it used to be.

Talking about donating a blood, allow me to share to you a selected story I came across with several years ago by Myron L. Morris, a physician, about a little boy who makes a difficult decision. Please read and try to find out something about the character of the boy through an act of decision during a crucial moment:

Eight-year-old Johnny was very serious when I called him into my office at the hospital and explained how he could save his little sister’s life. Mary, aged six, was near death—victim of a disease from which Johnny had made a miraculous recovery only two years earlier. Now Mary’s only chance was a blood transfusion from someone who had previously conquered the illness. Since the two children had the same rare blood type, Johnny would be the ideal donor.

“Johnny,” I said, “would you like to give your blood for Mary?”

He hesitated a moment, his lower lip trembling, but I had seen many people older than Johnny who were a little frightened by the idea of giving blood, so I thought no more about it. Then he smiled and said, “Sure, Dr. Morris. I’ll give my blood for my sister.”

The operating room was prepared and the children wheeled in—Mary, pale and thin; Johnny robust and almost cherubic.  Neither spoke, but when their eyes met, Johnny grinned broadly.

As Johnny’s blood siphoned into Mary’s veins, her pale skin began to turn pink. There was complete silence as the operation proceeded. But Johnny spoke in a brave little voice I will never forget.

“Say, Dr. Morris,” he said, “when do I die?”

It was only then that I realized what that moment’s lip trembling had meant when I had talked to Johnny in my office.

He thought that giving up his blood for his sister meant giving up his life! In that brief moment he had made his great decision.

That was, indeed, a very beautiful, inspiring account of a boy who made the greatest decision in his life by giving his everything, yes, even his own life, for the sake of someone. From out of such a single decision, everything was never the same again in his life and those of his loved ones. It’s about taking risks, but also to think wisely to come up with the right decision.

The decisions you are making at any time, whether great or small, will tell about who you are. Every single day is an endless stream of random possibilities that allow you to decide upon. Just like what I did a little over three years ago: I have decided to become a good husband to my wife and a best dad to my son.

Interspersing with the innocence of a young child

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In this picture, Nathaniel was eating lunch in his favorite popular Filipino fast food restaurant, Jollibee.

As a parent, you probably may have already had done everything to protect or preserve the innocence of your young child. You tell him simplistic stuff and shelter him, to the best that you could, from the political side of everything. You make it a point that you’re doing it right in keeping the door closed on the adult media world even when you know that, sooner or later, somebody else could push it open.

You will do everything to protect his innocence because you know that, as a young child, he is very sensitive and could be easily impacted by trauma. You believe that his childhood is a state that should be protected, monitored, and be kept safe at all times, so he could learn new things in a proper, slow, and gradual manner, once he’s mature enough to handle them. Yes, no doubt, you love your young child to the point that you want him to have a total protection from people who could do him harm, inflict unwanted pain and harsh reality for his age, and snatch his innocence away from him too young.

But what if this “innocence” thing, which is every child’s right to not know, never crossed your mind? How are you going to know the ways in which you could help ensure his safety and protect his innocence?jollibee01

Protecting your young child’s innocence is important because it is what will keep him asleep in his bed unmindful of the chaos and noise of the outside world. It is what will keep him smiling after any difficulties or hardships because he could still believe everything will always turn out fine in the end, even when you know that is not always the case. A young child’s innocence should be protected so that he grows up as naturally unaffected by these preventable unnecessary inputs as possible.

Or you could try looking at the situation from a different sense, from a different perspective, if you may. As a parent, there’s no such thing as protecting your young child’s “innocence.” It is not his innocence you are actually protecting, but the child himself. There’s one way you think is best to protect your child, and that’s for people to respect your ability, capacity, and responsibility to raise a child.jollibee02

To protect and not to protect your young child’s innocence are both important. You will find out that there’s no need for you to try protecting your young child’s innocence indefinitely as no one can truly protect it. But it’s a matter of knowing when to protect his innocence until you don’t. A good parent knows when it is important to protect his child and when it is important not to.

What you are so afraid of may not be what you should fear

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Fear is a psychological expedient. Depression is a chemical imbalance.

What are you most afraid of? What keeps you up at night thinking to the point of feeling nervous, heart beats faster, sweating, and, sometimes, losing your mind? And then, all of a sudden, there’s this other side of you telling yourself that everything you heard, saw, felt, and experienced could be explained in more or less logical terms. Fear, as you come to know it, is a psychological expedient; while depression, on the other hand, is the result of a chemical imbalance within your system.

But, of all kinds of fears, what are you really most afraid of? Fear has been considered as mankind’s oldest and strongest of emotions. And the fear of the unknown is the oldest and strongest kind of fear. Let me pick one type of fear of the unknown we could discuss about, and that’s death. Because no one who have gone there had ever come back alive (except for Lazarus who was restored to life by Jesus, and that one particular unknown dead man in the Old Testament who was buried in prophet Elisha’s tomb and accidentally touched his bones.)

Are you afraid of death? I do, and I had to assume that mostly all of us feel the same way, too. Most of us are afraid to die because we simply have had too much to live for. Some people are afraid to die simply because of fear for all of those they would be leaving behind: Earthly possessions, fame, loved ones, and the list could go on.

But there are quite a few people who are comfortable to say on why they’re not afraid to die. And some of these people are those who are almost there. They have considered it to be just a natural thing and that you don’t even have to talk about it.

But hey, seriously, it’s also a natural thing for most people to simply feel the fear of death. When you go to bed each night you may sometimes entertain the thought like “What if I don’t wake up?” Or “In what manner or way in which I may die?”

Here’s a sonnet I wrote for a very scary experience I, along with my wife and a two-year-old son, had during last year’s (sometime in the first week of July) boat ride from Surigao City to Cebu City. We were actually on a week-long vacation in my hometown, one of the towns in the province of Agusan del Norte, and took the Surigao route by boat on our way back to Cebu. At the pier in Surigao, the sea was calm and you could never see any signs of impending danger waiting halfway on.

The boat braved a violent sea of strong winds and big waves as it pierced through the dark of the night. There was a time in that night when I thought the boat could have sunk and we would have all gotten drowned. Some passengers were vomiting from sea sickness; others were praying silently, trembling. I was thinking: If I’m going to be drowned, how it would be like to die from drowning?

You may try pondering at my sonnet:

I Always Thought That Life’s A Breath To Hold

The instinct not to breathe underwater is so strong that it overcomes the agony of running out of air.—Sebastian JungerThe Perfect Storm

 

I always thought that life’s a breath to hold
When, all submerged, the underwater scent’s
A poison that kills even the most bold
Of warriors, declaring a wrath, still went
No farther than what he can only keep
For himself, and for how long he could last
With every moment’s pull towards the deep;
The creeping hand that takes away so fast
And left with no other thing but finding
How he can truly make himself afloat
And gains back the sweetest sense of breathing 
Freely—what else matters most and a lot?
While there are lives a drowning it may seem
The Sea would keep them all up to claim

That horrible experience has served me many good things since. My understanding has widened and I was able to develop such an antidote, serving as my means of comfort and strength whenever I’m faced with danger or difficulty, to some of my greatest phobias (fear of loss of control, fear of death or the act of dying, fear of the unknown, and so on): None of us could get out of here alive.

I watched my two-year-old son in the deep of his slumber as the boat swayed from side to side. I could hear he was even snoring to some point. He knows nothing at all to all of this. He neither understands what death is nor the stuff the adults in his life were caring about. I pondered: If he’s not worried, why should I be, too?

If your time has come it will find you wherever you are and whatever you’re doing. You shall not be able to avoid her sting. When you know your purpose in life, serving God the way He wants you to, you would have nothing left to worry about. Yes, not even death itself can scare you.

What makes people really happy

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Touched by God.

If you’re going to ask me what happiness is all about, then I’m going to give you my personal point of view on the subject matter. Happiness means different things to different people. Some people may think that material things will bring them happiness. While others believe that peace of mind is what could make them feel really happy. It has become more of a personal choice of belief and a lot of people are doing everything, working all their lives, chasing it.

But what really makes people happy? If material things, money, and earthly possessions are what can bring happiness for some people, then why would we still be hearing sad endings of the lives of these very same people we thought to have already had gotten everything they wanted. So there’s a loophole here we are going to find out in that sense, a missing link.

Not even Solomon, in all his glory, wealth, and wisdom, could make himself convinced and declare with great conviction that he was able to find true happiness in the abundance of what he got. Instead, he suggested about the vanity of all things under the sun. All the things in the world couldn’t make him really happy.

So what is happiness all about? Again, if you’re going to ask me what it is all about, you have to allow me to share or give you my personal opinion on the subject matter. The following are what can make me feel truly happy:

I FEEL HAPPY DOING WHAT I LOVE

Writing is my passion and it is what I always love doing. People may not care to read what I have written but I don’t care, it doesn’t matter. But I’m happiest when I know I was able to touch people’s lives, heal those who have been terribly hurt, and encourage personal transformation through my works.

I FEEL HAPPY BEING FREE

I’m going to be specific on this, and that’s personal freedom I’m trying to mean. Everybody needs to have freedom to varying degrees, but to have personal freedom is something else. When you’re free to do what you like and in a positive way, you’re giving yourself the gift of happiness.

I FEEL HAPPY KNOWING MY PURPOSE IN LIFE

Happiness is being where God wants you to be, no matter where it is. When you know you’re doing something for the glory of God, is where true happiness could be found.

I FEEL HAPPY BEING NOT TOO OBSESSED IN CHASING HAPPINESS

You cannot find true happiness in thinking too hard about the things that can make you happy especially to the point of focusing towards something you want to a fault and you’re not already enjoying the whole thing. Happiness is about just going about your life, knowing there are failures and victories you are going to face, and enjoying the whole ride.

I FEEL HAPPY BEING A DAD

The moment I decided to actively, passionately, and consciously participate in the life of my son (that’s when the fatherhood thing finally sinks in upon me), is when I discovered joy. I learned to take care of myself because I know I had a son who needs me now. No words could describe the happiness I felt in that very moment I held my son in my arms for the first time.

I FEEL HAPPY BEING A FAMILY MAN

I feel happy that, as a family man, I could put my family’s happiness before my own. I know that in that way, I’m ultimately having a more joy-filled life.

Helping parents in raising their sons to become future men of honor and praise

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What he’s looking at? He’s probably looking for the real thing, I guess.

Waking up early one morning, after having said my morning prayer, I opened my laptop to see if I can scribble something on a blank, white Microsoft Word document sheet, and for what will come out of it. I started thinking of a topic I could come up with and to hit the keyboards which I can as well make as a blog post entry. But instead of typing for what my mind could dictate as words on a particular topic, I ended up wired to the internet and so I proceeded on updating my social media status, checking my emails, and surfing or, shall I say, googling.

I typed on as many different keywords on the search box as I can, one particular topic after another. The internet, it occurred to me, has become a very positive step or tool people could use to educate themselves. Then I came across a poem “God Give Us Men” by Josiah Gilbert Holland, which, in my humble opinion, embodies the virtues and ideals of what a real man should be and all about. The world we are living today needs more men of this caliber or quality so that we can produce more of those who can be best fathers as well. In case you don’t still read or heard of the poem, then allow me to share it here:

God Give Us Men

A time like this demands

Strong minds, great hearts, true faith, and ready hands;

Men whom the lust of office does not kill;

Men whom the spoils of office could not buy;

Men who possess opinions and a will;

Men who have honor; men who will not lie;

Men who can stand before the demagogue

And damn his treacherous flatteries without winking!

Tall men, sun-crowned, who live above the fog

In public duty, and in private thinking;

For while the rabble, with thumb-worn creeds,

Their large professions and their little deeds,

Mingle in single strife, lo! Freedom weeps,

Wrong rules the land and waiting Justice sleeps.

It was so true a say that before God gave us men, He gave parents boys. These boys are every parent’s sons he or she should be training, nurturing, and polishing to become future men of honor and praise. Here are some important pointers to help parents raise their sons to become future men of honor and praise:

HELP HIM HOW TO VALUE HARD WORK

Your son must know it directly from you that work is a gift from God. You will teach him to be proud of doing a trade. You must instill in him the importance of learning to do household chores and that work itself defines mediocrity or excellence.

HELP HIM HOW TO STAND ALONE

Parents must be their children’s generous provider of inner confidence and trust which is to start at such a very young age. Doing so could only sharpen their mental powers in discerning what is right and to stand up for what they believe is right, even when that belief is unpopular or they belong to the minority.

HELP YOUR SON TO BE SUBMISSIVE TO GOD’S COUNSEL

Helping your son to become submissive to God’s counsel is one important mandate of parenting. Yes, as a parent, you can use every opportunity to introduce God in his life.

HELP HIM HOW TO DEAL WITH TEMPTATION

The problem with temptation is that some people are trying to think it doesn’t exist. It may be just a way for these people to ignore what is real. Temptation is real. You must accept the fact that your son is not immune to the enticing power of the evils of this world.

What you can do as a parent is to make your home the very first place in which he could learn what true love is and practice or observe what it is all about. He must be seeing it in you. The love you have exemplified before him is the best antidote to what could sway him in a negative way.

HELP HIM HOW TO BE GENEROUS

Teaching your son to be generous at an early age is highly admirable. You must make your son understand that generosity is one best way to make our world a better place in which to live. He must know that when you give to someone, you help improve his life just the same as you’re improving that of your own.

Generosity is a way for some people to feel good about themselves. It may be because it can make them feeling proud having done something good. You must be your son’s model for generosity. To be generous is to be a gift to someone else, just as parents are a gift to their children and vice versa. It is a selfless act of kindness, love, and doing right.

Some tips to help your son develop interpersonal skills

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Nathaniel takes time to pose for the camera.

Helping children to become adept at interacting with others should be every parent’s priority right from the very start. A child with good interpersonal skills, something he was able to acquire or having learned starting at such a very young age, has this awareness of his own thoughts and feelings much more pronounced than in children with poor interpersonal skills and knows intimately about the distinct and different feelings and thoughts of people other than his own self. Because of this special ability of the child to perceive or foresee how others must be feeling and thinking through him, he can more than regulate his words and actions with ease and grace and his sensitivity towards them would be serving him in a positive way.

On the other hand, children with poor interpersonal skills tend to be insensitive or unaware of their own feelings. This results to their having difficulty reading others and may have poor perception or knowledge at how others might be viewing them. Modifying their words or actions according to the circumstances became a difficult task for them to overcome. Here are some important tips to help children develop interpersonal skills:

TEACH YOUR CHILD HOW TO GIVE COMPLIMENTS

Encourage him or her to comment positively on others (unless when there’s nothing in that person worthy of praising). Say something nice to your child and when he return the favor by saying something good about you, too, let him know how it makes you feel happy or good. Train or help him see the bright side of everything. That is one best way for him to have a healthy disposition of life and he will have a lot to be grateful for.

MAKE GREETINGS AND GOODBYES A HABIT

When you’re practicing greetings and goodbyes for your child, you’re helping him or her prepare for introductions and departures. Your child must also be praised for a job well done. On-the-spot requests or demands should be discouraged and, instead, should be replaced with positive reinforcement which is proven to be much more effective.

HELP YOUR CHILD IN FINDING A WAY FOR HIM TO RELATE CAUSE AND EFFECT

One of the most effective and best of ways to help your child develop a theoretical understanding of cause and effect is through storytelling and reading. You as a parent should be able, to the best of your ability, to help or encourage him in the application of those lessons by citing or pointing out how his actions were causing reactions in his own life.

GUIDE HIM IN MAKING CONVERSATIONAL TRANSITIONS

It is of the utmost importance for every parent to help his or her child in understanding the necessary give-and-take of conversation and how to transition; this must be done by carefully discussing his own interests, and then to inquire about something of interest to another person. This method supports the fact that conversation is, actually, an inherently social thing.

CAPITALIZE ON HIS INTERESTS

Capitalizing on your child’s interests, whether it’s a particular hobby, game, sport, character, or skill, is one way to encourage him to become more verbal and socially adept. Make way to communicate well with him, talk to him. Talk to him about how and what you’re feeling, thinking, and you could ask him how and what he feels or thinks, too. Make conversation a way that you can penetrate right through his very core.