Helping children to become adept at interacting with others should be every parent’s priority right from the very start. A child with good interpersonal skills, something he was able to acquire or having learned starting at such a very young age, has this awareness of his own thoughts and feelings much more pronounced than in children with poor interpersonal skills and knows intimately about the distinct and different feelings and thoughts of people other than his own self. Because of this special ability of the child to perceive or foresee how others must be feeling and thinking through him, he can more than regulate his words and actions with ease and grace and his sensitivity towards them would be serving him in a positive way.
On the other hand, children with poor interpersonal skills tend to be insensitive or unaware of their own feelings. This results to their having difficulty reading others and may have poor perception or knowledge at how others might be viewing them. Modifying their words or actions according to the circumstances became a difficult task for them to overcome. Here are some important tips to help children develop interpersonal skills:
TEACH YOUR CHILD HOW TO GIVE COMPLIMENTS
Encourage him or her to comment positively on others (unless when there’s nothing in that person worthy of praising). Say something nice to your child and when he return the favor by saying something good about you, too, let him know how it makes you feel happy or good. Train or help him see the bright side of everything. That is one best way for him to have a healthy disposition of life and he will have a lot to be grateful for.
MAKE GREETINGS AND GOODBYES A HABIT
When you’re practicing greetings and goodbyes for your child, you’re helping him or her prepare for introductions and departures. Your child must also be praised for a job well done. On-the-spot requests or demands should be discouraged and, instead, should be replaced with positive reinforcement which is proven to be much more effective.
HELP YOUR CHILD IN FINDING A WAY FOR HIM TO RELATE CAUSE AND EFFECT
One of the most effective and best of ways to help your child develop a theoretical understanding of cause and effect is through storytelling and reading. You as a parent should be able, to the best of your ability, to help or encourage him in the application of those lessons by citing or pointing out how his actions were causing reactions in his own life.
GUIDE HIM IN MAKING CONVERSATIONAL TRANSITIONS
It is of the utmost importance for every parent to help his or her child in understanding the necessary give-and-take of conversation and how to transition; this must be done by carefully discussing his own interests, and then to inquire about something of interest to another person. This method supports the fact that conversation is, actually, an inherently social thing.
CAPITALIZE ON HIS INTERESTS
Capitalizing on your child’s interests, whether it’s a particular hobby, game, sport, character, or skill, is one way to encourage him to become more verbal and socially adept. Make way to communicate well with him, talk to him. Talk to him about how and what you’re feeling, thinking, and you could ask him how and what he feels or thinks, too. Make conversation a way that you can penetrate right through his very core.