Waking up early one morning, after having said my morning prayer, I opened my laptop to see if I can scribble something on a blank, white Microsoft Word document sheet, and for what will come out of it. I started thinking of a topic I could come up with and to hit the keyboards which I can as well make as a blog post entry. But instead of typing for what my mind could dictate as words on a particular topic, I ended up wired to the internet and so I proceeded on updating my social media status, checking my emails, and surfing or, shall I say, googling.
I typed on as many different keywords on the search box as I can, one particular topic after another. The internet, it occurred to me, has become a very positive step or tool people could use to educate themselves. Then I came across a poem “God Give Us Men” by Josiah Gilbert Holland, which, in my humble opinion, embodies the virtues and ideals of what a real man should be and all about. The world we are living today needs more men of this caliber or quality so that we can produce more of those who can be best fathers as well. In case you don’t still read or heard of the poem, then allow me to share it here:
God Give Us Men
A time like this demands
Strong minds, great hearts, true faith, and ready hands;
Men whom the lust of office does not kill;
Men whom the spoils of office could not buy;
Men who possess opinions and a will;
Men who have honor; men who will not lie;
Men who can stand before the demagogue
And damn his treacherous flatteries without winking!
Tall men, sun-crowned, who live above the fog
In public duty, and in private thinking;
For while the rabble, with thumb-worn creeds,
Their large professions and their little deeds,
Mingle in single strife, lo! Freedom weeps,
Wrong rules the land and waiting Justice sleeps.
It was so true a say that before God gave us men, He gave parents boys. These boys are every parent’s sons he or she should be training, nurturing, and polishing to become future men of honor and praise. Here are some important pointers to help parents raise their sons to become future men of honor and praise:
HELP HIM HOW TO VALUE HARD WORK
Your son must know it directly from you that work is a gift from God. You will teach him to be proud of doing a trade. You must instill in him the importance of learning to do household chores and that work itself defines mediocrity or excellence.
HELP HIM HOW TO STAND ALONE
Parents must be their children’s generous provider of inner confidence and trust which is to start at such a very young age. Doing so could only sharpen their mental powers in discerning what is right and to stand up for what they believe is right, even when that belief is unpopular or they belong to the minority.
HELP YOUR SON TO BE SUBMISSIVE TO GOD’S COUNSEL
Helping your son to become submissive to God’s counsel is one important mandate of parenting. Yes, as a parent, you can use every opportunity to introduce God in his life.
HELP HIM HOW TO DEAL WITH TEMPTATION
The problem with temptation is that some people are trying to think it doesn’t exist. It may be just a way for these people to ignore what is real. Temptation is real. You must accept the fact that your son is not immune to the enticing power of the evils of this world.
What you can do as a parent is to make your home the very first place in which he could learn what true love is and practice or observe what it is all about. He must be seeing it in you. The love you have exemplified before him is the best antidote to what could sway him in a negative way.
HELP HIM HOW TO BE GENEROUS
Teaching your son to be generous at an early age is highly admirable. You must make your son understand that generosity is one best way to make our world a better place in which to live. He must know that when you give to someone, you help improve his life just the same as you’re improving that of your own.
Generosity is a way for some people to feel good about themselves. It may be because it can make them feeling proud having done something good. You must be your son’s model for generosity. To be generous is to be a gift to someone else, just as parents are a gift to their children and vice versa. It is a selfless act of kindness, love, and doing right.