While many wives, with good reason, wish their men to sympathize more with their situation, on the other side of the road is also often true; that there are dads as well who wish women understood about them and their needs. But how could one get more understanding and consideration from someone who also crave for the same in the first place? Well, the best way to do it, in my humble opinion, is for either of the couple to actually give it to the other.
But let’s take a closer look at exploring empathy for a dad. It’s going to suggest, from which to draw on a conversation with dads in general, how it would be for a man to be a parent. Here are seven things in which most fathers wish their partners understood them more. Take note that this is only a generalization.
FATHERS NEED TO BE PRAISED FOR THEIR SKILLS
A dad, just like his beloved wife, loves the child they have made together so much. He has many of the same feelings his wife may be having, like joy when the baby first curls his or her tiny fingers around one of his own. Most dads, who spend less time with their kids than their wives do, may feel less sure of their skills.
Wives should not make their husbands feeling awkward or inept. They must give their husbands a sense of assurance and praise them for their skills or for whatever they’re all best at doing. Husbands must be given time to get involve as they try to pick up their wives’ underlying attitude about their parenting skills.
FATHERS NEED TO BE ACCEPTED FOR WHO THEY ARE
Dads are more than awed at their partners’ ability to make a baby and deeply grateful that they have given them a child. These dads probably appreciate their spouses’ sacrifices more than they could express in words.
But a dad could also feel worried by any fatigue, depression, or other health problems that have developed since his woman became a mother. A mom should welcome whatever suggestions her man is offering like getting more exercise or using more child care. There’s no way for a wife to get irritated for that. Instead, she must accept him for who he is and for the good that he can do.
DADS NEED SOME SPACE
Yes, dads, like most men, need some space so they could do the things that are making them feel good. Allow them to do what they like for a given time. Be supportive.
DADS NEED TO BE SIMPLY UNDERSTOOD
Wives couldn’t make their husbands understand them, but they could try to understand their husbands. The ball is in the wife’s hands and it’s all up to her.
A good wife should be asking her man to describe his feelings as a father. Or she could simply be observing him sans any assumptions, wondering how it feels to be a husband deep down inside. Sure, it might take a conscious decision for a wife in trying to understand her man but, once she did, her husband would notice her interest, appreciate it, and be more empathic with her.
DADS NEED THEIR LOVERS’ ATTENTION
A father is more than capable of loving his child incredibly, but his relationship with his wife is still a priority, not merely a framework for raising kids. A good wife should not make his husband to feel keenly the shift in her attention, affection, energy, and love from him to their child.
DADS NEED A COACH OR A TEAMMATE OUT OF THEIR WIVES
Real men, as tough as they are, sometimes cry, get tired, and feel sad. A good wife should make her man to feel intimately safe with her. But he needs to know, most importantly, that his failure would be met with encouragement and loving arms.
DADS NEED TO BE LIFTED UP
A good wife should be doing her best in building up her man by letting him know or reminding him always that he is a good breadwinner, husband, family man, lover, provider, protector, and a friend. He needs reassurance that he is loved, cared for, and pampered.