Every child regardless of race, geographic location, and nationality go through developmental stages, some are faster than others, some more thoroughly than others. No child is like the other, not even identical twins are. Each child is different. Each child is unique. Each child is special.
Not every child could perform the behaviors indicated for each stage. Hence, parents must be guided with the idea of what their little ones may be capable of doing. Once the child’s stages of development is learned and fully understood by a parent, he or she would be able to teach the child appropriate skills in areas of development.
SIGNIFICANT ROLE OF PARENTS
It is important for parents to know what role they are playing with regards to their children’s growth and development. They must be aware of the fact that the child’s life, normal growth, and the good manners and right conduct they would acquire in the process is dependent on the kind and quality of care their parents could provide. These parents have, right in their hands, the power and the potential to protect their children’s lives and for what they could provide for their optimum development.
Good parenting starts from a happy marriage. It starts from the husband as an individual person and from the wife as an individual person as well. The husband must feel comfortable and good about his own self just as the wife also has to feel just the same. Parents who feel good about themselves would treat their children in the same way.
Feeling good and comfortable about one’s self is the road that leads to an improved self-esteem. Parents could build self-esteem through:
- Taking responsibility for their behavior
- Praising themselves for being and doing
- Owning their feelings
- Using positive labels for themselves
On the other hand, parents could as well develop positive self-esteem in their children through:
- Using gentle, positive touch, kisses, and hugs
- Praising kids for being and doing
- Having fun with them
- Using happy, pleasant expressions and tone of voice
- Giving them opportunities for success
- Using positive labels for kids
A RIGHT AND A DUTY
Parenting should be viewed upon as both a right and a duty. Parents must be informed of the rights and duties of children as well as that of their own based on the laws of their country of origin. The following are the universally recognized rights and duties every parent must, with respect to their children, observe by:
- Giving their children love and affection, companionship and understanding, and advice and counsel
- Keeping them in their company; supporting, educating, and instructing them
- Providing them with moral and spiritual guidance
- Furnishing their children with good, wholesome educational materials, and supervise their educational activities
- Imposing discipline
- Demanding obedience and respect
- Enhancing, protecting, protecting, preserving and maintaining physical and mental health
- Representing them in all matters affecting their interest
THE FORMATIVE YEARS
It is during the formative years that parents could develop abilities in their child necessary for acquiring other skills as he or she grows up. This is why parents who have learnt and understood the growth and developmental stages of their child could respond with appropriate experiences for the development of the capabilities of the child. Each time a parent provides love and nurturance starting at the early stages of life, is sensitive to the child’s needs and abilities, provides guidance and limits, that parent is enabling the child to become the best individual he or she could be.