Are you the kind of parents who imposed a uniform treatment to all of your children? Well, not all of you do and that’s a good thing. You should treat each child as an individual because not all of them are the same. Each child is a unique person so that what’s good for one child may not be applicable to another and vice versa.
When it comes to raising children, playing equal is almost impossible. This is due to the fact that each child has its own special needs that may be different from his or her siblings. It doesn’t have to be interpreted as being impartial, though. Sometimes, equality and fairness don’t equate well with each other.
Your behavior—personality differences and temperaments— toward your children, as well as their behavior toward each other, plays a significant role in the way you interact with them. First time parents learn how to raise their firstborn who, for a while, is their only child. But this relationship they were establishing with the first child was only temporary and could change with another child.
The birth order of your kids could really, in one way or another, affect the way you relate to them, the way they interact with you as their parent, the way they experience things, and in the way they’re going to fit into the mold of the individuals they have become.
An older child may be experiencing different things than his or her younger siblings. As for the firstborn, he or she may develop this feeling of being neglected or unloved with the arrival of the second child. But it may be a lot different also for an only child compared to a child in a larger family.
One of the most important things to consider is that each pair of family members has a unique relationship and that a child could relate in a lot of different ways to his or her mom and to his or her dad. These differences among siblings, therefore, should be something that will mirror how they’re going to perceive their roles and relationships within their families.