Teaching kids how to be resilient is supposed to be an easy task. It should be done on a daily basis of problem-solving activities between a parent and a child over a particular thing. However, it wouldn’t always come out as easy as expected.
Parents will be so filled with serious responsibilities while kids, on the other hand, take the challenge of learning new things as they grow up. So how can parents teach resilience to their kids without sacrificing what they can do for their own?
Children looked up to their parents as models. Parents must be models of resilience to their kids in the first place.
No one is born a resilient person already. Resilience is something that is acquired, practiced, and learned. And because it is something that is learned, therefore, it can be taught.
One way for parents to teach resilience to their kids is by gearing them up in such a way that they will be equipped with the skills that could handle the unexpected. Sure, our culture has taught us about making sure our children are comfortable but it doesn’t have to be that way all the time.
This is not going to be a way of suggesting that a child must be put through the same pain that his parents went through like what symbiotic parents are doing to their children. The point is to get the kids taught in handling uncertainty and as a problem-solver.
Problem solving is a fact of life. We do it every day, and everywhere. When a parent teaches his child how to solve problems, he’s teaching him how to live. After all, life is all about solving problems.
Parents must engage their kids in figuring out how they could handle challenges. Start it from simple tasks, then to hard, and hardest. They must be given the opportunity, time and again, to figure out what works from what does not.
Along with teaching these children about figuring out how they could take challenges, teaching them concrete skills is equally important. A good parent must ask himself or herself these questions: Where are we heading with this situation? What skill do my kids need, by which I could teach, getting there?
Another thing is for parents to let their children make mistakes. Failure doesn’t mean the end of the world or everything. But to fail and to realize such a failure is to learn to figure out what to do next. Children must be taught to see the consequences of their actions.