The Holy Bible contains the words of God. It is a manual for what could only be good for us. It guides, directs, and shows the way.
The concept of a family comes from God. He performed the first marriage in the persons of Adam and Eve, blessed them, and told them to multiply and occupy the whole face of the earth.
God wants married people to be happy. But man’s fall to sin has ruined it all. Yet He ransomed us through Christ Jesus so that what was being lost to sin would be restored as new.
For the husband and wife, God has this to say, to quote from Ephesians chapter five, verse thirty-three: “Each one of you must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
Upon the arrival of their first child, the couple would no longer be just husband and wife but as new parents. It is both a duty and responsibility. They’re now a family. Obedience to God is the key to have a happy family life.
As for the parents, the Lord God said to them in the book of Ephesians chapter six, verse four: “Do not be irritating your children, but go on bringing them up in the discipline and admonition of the Almighty.”
He even made it clear about what responsibility do they have as what was stated in Deuteronomy chapter six, verses four to nine and in Proverbs chapter twenty-two, verse six: “You need to take the time to teach your children about God. Starting when they are very young, patiently help each one to become God’s friend.”
In Jeremiah chapter thirty, verse eleven and in Hebrews chapter twelve, verses nine to eleven, God instructed about how parents should discipline their children: “You need to discipline your children but never in anger or with cruelty.”
It’s a common sense to give a sick child extra food so his or her body could fight infections and also to avoid rapid weight loss. A recovering child needs more food so he or she could regain his or her strength and normal weight. Take note that, for a sick child, active feeding is of the utmost importance.
A sick child must be continuously fed because he or she needs to overcome the disease and to avoid rapid weight loss as well. When a child is on the recovery stage, the more that he or she needs extra food to regain his strength and normal weight.
The following are simple pointers on what parents should be doing to their sick and recovering child:
If the child is breastfed before he or she was sick, continue breastfeeding him or her. He or she needs more food to gain strength and fight infections.
Try giving your child frequent feedings of soft diet, which could be easily digested in small amounts. A child who is sick has a poor appetite. Hence, parents need to patiently and gently encourage the child to eat. This would as well reduce emotional stress on the sick or recovering child.
Give foods that are rich in vitamin A and C like dark green leafy and yellow vegetables and fruits. Vitamin A would reduce the severity of the disease and help prevent child mortality.
Give more fluids like orange juice, water, electrolytes, etcetera, if the child or baby is more than six months old. This would prevent the sick or recovering child from getting dehydrated which is fatal.
Give extra meals, breast feeds or additional food to a recovering child. Make sure that the foods you are giving are highly nutritious and easily digested. Avoid giving foods that are considered “empty calories” such as junk foods, fries, and etcetera.
Encourage the child patiently to eat. Try making mealtimes fun. Be creative. Try making foods become tastier and more colorful.
Actually, children are natural philosophers. They keep asking questions and that’s a good thing. They wanted to know and learn about just everything that catches their attention.
But why should parents need to encourage their kids to learn about philosophy? Is it okay to start them early? I mean should we really teach them philosophy the way they would be encountering it in college?
Teaching philosophy to children is simple. Start by asking questions because philosophy, as what the famous ancient Greek philosopher Socrates had said, begins in wonder. It is when questions are asked that answers would be generated.
From out of such a simple act of asking questions, not by just asking one’s own self but others, could lead one to understand more about what it is he or she would like to know in particular. When you bring your kids to engage in philosophical dialogue about philosophical issues, then that’s it.
Don’t expect them to be acting like specialists in the said field but as long as their performances are in line with the rules or standard practices of the discipline, then that’s just what it is. Philosophy teaches critical thinking skills and it is best to start it early with every child. Once the child fully developed his critical thinking skills, he or she becomes a “critical thinker.”
A critical thinker is someone who knows the right thing to do, how to achieve it, and to be sensitive to the context and others involved in the situation. Failure to make our children become little philosophers may find them becoming expert at anything else, but they would be not so very good at creating a civil society.
Conclusion: Let us encourage our children to get into dialogue with other children and even to people much older than them. That is the key, the very foundation by which we’re making them philosophers in the process. All philosophies begin in wonder which eventually leads to understanding and wisdom. When we make them better thinkers, through intellectually rigorous dialogue of course, we’re making them become better citizens when they grow up.
Job hunting could be most challenging but ultimately a worth rewarding experience as well. It’s a vast jungle out there for people looking for opportunities and where the competition is getting more intense each time.
If you’re a stay-at-home dad and, for some reasons, decides on rejoining the workforce after many years of taking care of the kids at home, could be a daunting task. So if you’re scheduled for an interview, consider yourself lucky.
You’d have to be prepared. You’d have to be smart. You’d have to be confident. You’d have to be full of hope. You’d have to ace that job interview to get the job you badly want.
I’ve been into these job interviews myself more than a dozen times already. There’s something I noticed with the way most of these interviewers, with the exception of some very of them, asked their questions though: scripted. Or maybe it was just me. Because of the numbers of job interviews I’ve been through it felt like all the questions being asked were already programmed for some specific answers.
But even if you hit the nail on the head for these questions, sometimes it wouldn’t be enough or a sure guarantee you’d be hired. The verdict would still be up for the interviewer to decide, whatever it is he or she has to base for what makes you qualify for the job.
It’s hard when you carry such a pressure of winning it because you have a family to support and hungry mouths to feed in the first place. The hardest part would be in dealing with frustrations and disappointments. How would you handle rejections? How would you accept the reality of the fact that, no matter how hard you tried and done your best, you failed?
Being turned down for a job in a job interview could eat your confidence away. But the good thing is, no matter how many times you’ve been turned down, you could use such a rejection in building on your core strengths in such a way that you’re learning a lot from it. Or it may serve as an eye opener for you to try venturing something else other than just getting employed like, for example, entrepreneurship.
It is important to consider though, from the applicant’s point of view, that what the interviewer must be searching is the applicant’s personal profile keys to determine what type of personality the applicant is having, whether or not he has the drive, confidence, ability to talk and write effectively, chemistry, energy, motivation, and determination.
You have to include these keys in your answers as a way of telling the interviewer how you feel about yourself, your chosen career path, and for what it is you’d be like to work with. You may study these ten of the most common job interview questions below along with their answers:
Why should we hire you?
You must answer this question briefly and direct to the point. Take note about highlighting the areas from your background; they must relate, of course, to current needs and problems. You could also recap what the interviewer is trying to tell you about the description of the job, and how your skills could meet up to such a demand. Your killer punch must be something like this, which you are only going to say in the later part of the interview: “I have the qualifications needed for this particular job. I could take direction and, most importantly, making a thorough success is one of my utmost desires.”
What makes you want to work here?
Answering this question without enough knowledge of the company or establishment you’d like to apply for a job, you’d be in great trouble. You must have researched everything about the company or establishment first before even thinking of applying for a position from that company or establishment.
You must begin by telling the interviewer that you’re not looking for just another paycheck. Give the interviewer the impression that you’re into such a belief the company could provide you a stable job where you could enjoy your work—a work environment that encourages you to make your best even better.
Tell us about yourself.
Be warned that this is not an invitation for you to go all out. But knowing more about what’s being asked before jumping to any conclusions for an answer could make all the difference for that matter. Be engaged yet in a smart way. Instead of making yourself to easily fall into the trap by directly engaging for what you could tell about yourself to your interviewer, you could try asking the one who interviews regarding the area of background that would be most relevant to him or her.
That’s just what a smart move on your part should be. It would enable the interviewer to help you with the appropriate focus. That way, discussing about what is irrelevant could be avoided. No matter how the interviewer responds to your qualifying questions, make sure that what it is you’re going to tell about should be covered by most of what your key personality profiles are.
What is your greatest strength?
This could be best answered by isolating high points from your background and in building a couple key value profiles from different categories. It is okay if you’d like to demonstrate pride, dependability, reliability, and the ability to stick with a difficult task yet able to change course rapidly when needed or required. Consider telling your interviewer about your belief in planning and proper management of your time.
Could you work under pressure?
Don’t simply give a yes or a no to this question. Doing so is disadvantageous on your part as it would reveal you nothing. You’d surely lose the opportunity in selling your skills and value profiles if you settle for a short and simple answer such as a yes or a no.
Try giving a brief yet comprehensive answer. Once you do that, you’re not only giving the information requested but as well seize the opportunity in selling yourself.
What are your qualifications?
See to it that you don’t answer the wrong question. Try asking first if what the interviewer wants is job-related or academic job qualifications. Don’t hesitate to ask questions. Ask for clarification.
If it is job-related, then there’s a need for you to know what problems must be tackled first so you could provide an adequate answer. Or you may start by giving the interviewer a general answer, but letting him or her know how you feel about how it would be more valuable if he or she could tell you about specific worth assignments in the early months.
What makes this job different from the last one you’ve had?
If you’re not sure how to say it because you don’t have enough information to answer the question, make it clear to the interviewer. Lay it all on the line. This type of question is designed to uncover experience that you lacked and your answer could be used as evidence against you. Be careful to only focus on the positive like, for example, explaining about what you know of the job and in having the experience required to make a thorough success.
How long have you been job hunting?
If you’re employed, then your answer doesn’t really matter at all. But to try to emphasize on the length of time may only make it irrelevant to you in the follow-up probes, because you’re just looking for the right job, with the right people and outfit that could offer you the right opportunities.
If, on the other hand, you’re unemployed at the time of the interview, then the way you answer the question matters a lot. Don’t say you’ve been looking for one year and a half now because it isn’t going to score you any points. It would only give the interviewer the impression that since no one else had wanted you in a long time, he or she might as well would.
What are your biggest accomplishments?
Always remember to keep your answer job-related. Don’t exaggerate things out. Start your answer by saying that your biggest achievements are still ahead of you. Say also that you’re proud of your involvement with whoever it is you’d be working with, and to be able to make contribution as a part of the team while, at the same time, learning a lot in the process.
Do you have any questions?
When the interviewer asks you this question, it is an indicator that the interview is drawing to a close. Don’t be caught off guard, even to this. But it’s your chance to make one last hurrah to winning it fair and square.
This time, the interviewer becomes the one being interviewed. Ask him or her sensible questions though. Ask him or her why did he or she joins the company. How long has she or he been working in the company. What your first assignment be, etcetera, etcetera.
A baby’s rate of growth is influenced by a lot of factors. Read and find out in this article what makes a baby grow well and fast.
In order to attain the full growth potential of a child, there are various interdependent factors every parent must be considering. These are the following:
Proper pre-natal care.
Proper infant practices like, for example, exclusive breastfeeding for six months.
Highly nutritious diet. This is very important especially in the first two years of life.
A set of preventive and promotive health and nutrition measures such as immunization, micronutrient supplementation, personal and oral hygiene, and health and nutrition education.
Quality time spent caring for and interacting with the child.
Parents must do something to a healthy pregnancy and safe delivery. That must be so because a child’s growth and development starts at the womb. Good prenatal care ensures a healthy outcome of pregnancy.
Upon the birth of the baby, his or her birth weight should not be lower than 2.5 kilograms. If it is below that point, it means that the child is underweight and, therefore, needs special care.
Adequate intakes of highly nutritious foods would ensure normal physical and psychological growth and development of the child. Recommended infant feeding practices must be followed accordingly. These are the following:
Practicing exclusive breastfeeding from birth to about six months.
Giving nutritious complementary foods at least three to five times a day (this in addition to breast milk) at the age of six months and above.
Observing recommended hygienic practices for food preparation and feeding.
Adequate sleep is one important contributing factor to a child’s growth and development. Babies and young children need more sleep than adults in order to grow to their full potential.
And don’t forget this one important thing also: make sure that the child should undergo complete immunization, micronutrient supplementation, growth monitoring, health and nutrition education, and many more.
And last, but not the least, spend quality time with the child. It is simply done by enjoying feeding time, story-telling, strolling in the parks, playing, singing or dancing together, bathing and grooming the child, and many more. Take note that a well-cared for child develops self-confidence, fosters good inter-personal relationships with other people, and adjusts easily to his environment.
Early childhood care and stimulation should begin during pregnancy to promote mother and child bonding. This is very important for an infant’s well-being and overall development. There are many different ways in which parents could stimulate their child from pregnancy through early childhood. Some of these are as follow:
KEEPING A POSITIVE ATTITUDE TOWARD THE PREGNANCY
Keeping a positive attitude toward pregnancy could ensure a supportive and caring environment for both mother and child which in turn:
Ensures the mother’s well-being and appropriate care; it could also reduce the emotional stress on her. Take note that a relaxed mom would have a calming, soothing effect on the baby who is very sensitive to her moods and feelings.
Promotes sensitivity to the developing infant’s needs during the pre-natal stage as well as in the awareness of the infant as a human being.
COMMUNICATING WITH THE BABY WHILE STILL IN THE WOMB
Communicating with the baby while still in the womb is very important as it could promote attachment between mother and child, make the child feel that she could trust his or her caregiver, reassure him or her that he or she is accepted , cared and loved, and promote his or her sense of comfort and security.
Parents could do the following:
Touch or rub gently the enlarged abdomen.
Allow the fetus to listen to music or the parents could do the singing themselves.
Talk to the child or read him or her stories.
Introduce the infant to the home and immediate neighborhood.
Bring the infant to parks and scenic places in the community.
BONDING IN THE FIRST ONE TO TWO HOURS AFTER BIRTH
Bonding between the mother and her baby especially in the first one to two hours after birth is of the utmost importance. This is due to the fact that, at birth, all the senses of the baby are fully functioning and he or she could already hear, see, smell, and feel.
At birth, a mom or dad should be doing the following:
Immediately put the baby to her breast with skin to skin contact to let the baby feel his or her mother’s warmth.
Establish eye to eye contact and talk to the baby softly and lovingly while his or her mom is breastfeeding.
Talk to the baby when he or she is awake and initiate simple games with facial expressions and sounds.
CARING FOR THE PREGNANT MOTHER
Caring for the pregnant mom is important for both the mom’s and child’s well-being. Reducing stress and tension of the pregnant mom would help her cope with the demands of pregnancy and would promote child growth and development.
The husband should be doing, to the best of his ability, what could be good for his wife by:
Making sure she gets proper nutrition, exercise, rest, and pre-natal health care.
Helping her with the household chores and care for older siblings.
Sharing with her experiences regarding breastfeeding, child care, and appropriate forms of infant stimulation.
Last night, I noticed that my little boy forgot to say his prayer in bed. Or maybe it was intentional and that he doesn’t like to be praying anymore. So I asked him why he’s not praying.
He said he was tired. I was thinking he was just not in a mood to pray or maybe finding it to be boring for that particular moment. I always encouraged my son to pray in his own words.
I let him stay in bed and not force him to get up to pray. And when it’s time for me to talk to God, he gets up to join me in prayer. I know he’s learning the importance of prayer by seeing or hearing me or his mom pray.
My son’s prayer was simple. He would be mentioning names starting with me, his mom, grandpa, grandma, uncles, aunts, cousins, and even his friends and playmates. Sometimes, a neighbor would be included.
After mentioning names in a prayer asking God to protect them and give them good health, he would then ask God to give him food, milk, juice, and all the things he wished to have. He always closed his prayer with a thanksgiving.
I couldn’t help myself but to smile in the way he prays. It was simple, specific, very honest, on the spot, and direct to the point prayer. I see to it that when he prays, I was giving him the freedom to talk to God and that he could also see us praying. I think that’s where his confidence should grow.
To pray is to simply be with God and to talk to Him. A child needs to know early in his or her life that he or she could talk to a God just like when he or she is talking to Mom, Dad, Grandma, Grandpa, Aunt, Uncle, or a friend. He or she needs to understand that God is out there willing to listen to what he or she has to say.
Talking about prayers, I came across a prayer written by Stephen Vincent Benet. It was a prayer for freedom and for peace titled “A Prayer For United Nations.”
Stephen Vincent Benet (1898-1943) is an American poet, novelist and short-story writer, interested in fantasy and American themes. His best-known works are John Brown’s Body and a short story called “The Devil and Daniel Webster.”
“A Prayer for United Nations” was read by President Franklin Delano Roosevelt to the nation on June 14, 1942. Read it to find out what the United Nations were praying for in 1942 and how it’s still as relevant as to this day:
God of the free, we pledge our hearts and lives today to the cause of all free mankind.
Grants us victory over the tyrants who would enslave all free men and nations. Grant us faith and understanding to cherish all those who fight for freedom as if they were our brothers. Grant us brotherhood in hope and union, not only for the space of this bitter war, but for the days to come which shall and must unite all the children of earth.
Our earth is but a small star in the great universe. Yet of it we can make, if we choose, a planet unvexed by war, untroubled by hunger or fear, undivided by senseless distinctions of race, color, or theory. Grant us the courage and foreseeing to begin this task today that our children and our children’s children may be proud of the name of man.
The spirit of man has awakened and the soul of man has gone forth. Grant us the wisdom and the vision to comprehend the greatness of man’s spirit that suffers and endures so hugely for a goal beyond his own brief span. Grant us honor for our dead who died in the faith, redemption and security for all captive lands and peoples. Grant us patience with the deluded and pity for the betrayed. And grant us the skill and the valor that shall cleanse the world of oppression and the old base doctrine that the strong must eat the weak because they are strong.
Yet most of all, grant us brotherhood, not only for this day but for all our years—a brotherhood not of words but of acts and deeds. We are all of us children of earth—grant us that simple knowledge. If our brothers are oppressed, then we are oppressed. If they hunger, we hunger. If their freedom is taken away, our freedom is not secure. Grant us a common faith that man shall know bread and peace—that he shall know justice, righteousness, freedom and security, an equal opportunity and an equal chance to do his best, not only in our own lands, but throughout the world. And in that faith let us march toward the clean world our hands can make. Amen.
A strong, healthy marriage is the foundation of good parenting. Parents start as a husband and wife first before they become father and mother. A husband and wife may have unresolved personal and marital issues and these could adversely affect their ability to parent.
When marital conflicts begin to surface, couples end up wondering if they have made a mistake. Their partner does not seem to be the same person they thought they were marrying. There must be something wrong and that’s not what they’re bargaining for from the very beginning.
There’s no such thing as a perfect formula for resolving conflicts in marriage. Conflicts within marriage are one of the most common problems of the family. It is but normal and natural to have disagreements from time to time.
No two spouses ever agree on everything all of the time. But what’s important is in the way of expressing such a disagreement that could spell the difference.
Once you enter the married life, you would soon discover, not only at the beginning of your marriage but all throughout, that a relationship involves making a lot of sacrifices or the giving up of one’s desire in favor of the other. Success in marriage, therefore, depends upon the efforts and sacrifices exerted not just by one, but by the couple together in their day-to-day relations. Most importantly, it is measured by how much the couple is willing to give unconditional love to each other.
A lot of people would like to think that marriage is about living together happily ever after with the love of your life and kids. In reality, it’s not always the case. There are many marriages that ended up broken while those that have managed to hold on are, little by little, deteriorating.
But there are ways to improve a couple’s relationship and with a lot of work, patience, and love and compassion could lead you both to a closer satisfactory union. Here are some tips on how to iron out conflicts in your marriage:
PUTTING GOD IN THE CENTER
You have to believe it was God who gave you your life partner and it is your duty and responsibility to cherish and love him or her as a sign of appreciation to the Giver. It was God who leads you to each other to commit your life in a vow that says “till death do us part.” Make sure that He remains part and parcel of your life together.
Like in other aspects of group of life, communication is a very important tool in helping fix the wear and tear of a marriage. Once either of the couple fails to communicate to the other effectively, then marriage suffers. It has been found out that the majority of conflicts among couples, across families which could even lead to broken homes, are due to failure of communication.
ADJUST, ADJUST, AND ADJUST
Continuous adjustment is important in marriage since no two individuals are alike. When making any adjustments, it should be such that marital conflicts are well tolerable. The husband and wife should be awakened to the realization of the fact that they have to find ways to honor differences and to work together for the good of their marriage.
FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE
If it is possible, stop criticizing your partner. Yes, even if you think what you’re going to say to him or her is constructive. Stop criticizing. Instead, you may try suggesting the behavior you desire from him or her. Often, you only notice the mistakes of your partner that you take for granted the good things he or she has done for you.
Did you know that a child-centered parenting is a threat to a successful family life? I’m sure many a parent, including myself, have been into this, in one way or another, at some point of their lives. The following are five dangers closely associated with this style of family government:
Child-centered parenting could be disastrous in such a way that it attacks the husband-wife relationship by way of reducing its practical significance. In a married life, neither men nor women could lose themselves. One of the truths about marriage is that it forces revelation. It makes a man or a wife to reveal about himself or herself for what he or she is.
Child-centered parenting is such that it wrongly authorizes one or the other to pull away. To try to avoid the truth about one’s self, he or she may conveniently find in the name of motherhood and/or fatherhood a more suitable or pleasing image. Whenever you pull away from marriage, no matter how noble such a goal is, you’re leaving your accountability, which is your mate. Your kids deserve the best from the two of you.
Child-centered parenting could reverse the natural process of moral development in such a way that it prematurely creates within a child a false sense of self-reliance. In his own thinking, the child becomes self-sufficient even before the needed self-control is being established. This was happening because such a philosophy is granting freedoms beyond the child’s ability to manage those freedoms. Self-reliance apart from self-discipline could be such a destructive influence on young children.
Child-centered parenting could foster family independence, not family interdependence. When a child perceives himself to be the center of the family universe too often grows into selfish independence. Family independence, rather than family interdependence, becomes his way of life making him a lonely person. Parents should bear in mind that independence could rob their child of the opportunity to invest in relationships.
With the absence of relational investment, there’s no reason why family loyalty should exist. Other people like parents, siblings, peers, relatives, and friends matter only to the extent that advantages are gained by maintaining relationships. What a child is getting out of relationships, rather than what he can give, forms the basis of his loyalty. This child-centered parenting is fostering such a conclusion.
Child-centered parenting could magnify conflicting potentials between the natural way of the child and his need for moral conformity. What’s more is that it could even create propensities toward negative behavior that would either force and child into an adversarial relationship; or in forcing parents to abandon any reasonable standard of moral accountability.
Child-centered parenting is not proactive, but reactive in nature. Preventing crises in a child’s life is far more superior than just to react to them. As a parent, you would notice how easily child-centered parenting could creep into your day.
But there are ways in which you could meet all your child’s physical and emotional needs without being child-centered. Protecting your marriage is one thing; you have got to work continually at protecting such a relationship you had with your spouse. The other one is to have such a right perspective about the significance of such a relationship; it is the springboard for healthy parent-child relationships.
Every parent wants their kids to do well in school and in everything. There’s nothing wrong about it as long as you know well your child’s ability and limitation. Pressuring your kids to do something beyond their limits may do more harm than good.
You have to be careful not to push them too hard while, at the same time, not getting too passive. It’s a balancing act. Preschoolers are usually the ones who would be most affected with pressure since they’re yet struggling to learn everything.
Preschool and kindergarten learning programs are emphasized or focused on formal instruction in reading, writing, and arithmetic which gave parents the confidence that this early foundation could bring about a head start in school for their children. It is normal for parents to be so anxious in giving their son or daughter the best possible educational beginning. They were very eager for their children to succeed in school, guitar and piano lessons, basketball, volleyball, and other extra-curricular activities.
But this must all be done with precautions though. Otherwise, they’re risking the chance of having their little ones to get exhausted from lessons and activities whether before, during, and after school. A competitive, overly academic school system, which placed lots of emphasis on worksheets and tests and not enough on hands-on activities and concrete learning could lead to kids’ having to feel burned out. This is due to the fact that kids would be prone to stress when there’s only little time for play, exploring their own interests, and the art of developing friendships.
In the realistic sense of it, high aspiration may only obstruct one from achieving something or failure to achieve academic performance. Parents should bear in mind that to simply raise aspiration couldn’t be an effective solution in improving success in education. In fact, in some cases, too much parental aspiration could be disastrous.
It’s about time parents should realize the fact that some of the behavioral issues they’re struggling with are a result of the pressure that lots of kids now feel. They should stop, out of fear of not doing enough for their kids, churning out anxious and depressed children. Parental success is not measured on exam grades alone, but, most importantly, in the happiness and security of every child.