Fifty basic rules of parenting every parent must know

Be a friend to your child. Spend quality time with your child.

It is of the utmost importance for parents to have a better understanding of their roles. It is through their leadership that the core strength of the family originates. A lot has been written, said, and done about the “rules” on what it means to be a good parent, but it all boils down to the fact that that there is actually no such thing as perfect parenting.

Child rearing is still a dark continent for one to explore, figure out, and learn a lot from. But there are rules being made to help you do it just right for your kids:

  1. Love your children.
  2. Love your spouse.
  3. Set the right example.
  4. Discipline your children but with love.
  5. Accept your responsibility.
  6. Empathize with them.
  7. Set limits. And boundaries.
  8. Allow them to explore the world.
  9. Allow them to have privacy.
  10. Deal with their incessant needs and wants.
  11. Be a friend to your children. Spend quality time with them.
  12. Feel connected to and with them.
  13. Handle anger and conflict appropriately.
  14. Support their freedom to be who they are.
  15. Pay attention when they need you.
  16. Provide them moral guidance.
  17. Support their ability and freedom to think.
  18. Allow them to do things by themselves.
  19. Deal with their limitations, frustrations, and disabilities.
  20. Inspire them. Motivate them. Cheer them up.
  21. Validate their perceptions and way of thinking.
  22. Introduce God into their lives without forcing them.
  23. Teach them respect.
  24. Teach them kindness.
  25. Mirror their communications.
  26. Encourage them to discover or develop their gifts.
  27. Heal their emotional, physical, and psychological wounds.
  28. Take care of your own self.
  29. Maintain a connection with your children.
  30. Have confidence. Be confident.
  31. Be aware of the changes to which your children are going.
  32. Understand your children as evolving beings with a history and a future connected to the present.
  33. Be aware of how you are responding to your children. Be optimistic.
  34. Engage in behaviors concerning your children that would achieve the desired result.
  35. Make your children know and feel that they are loved and that they could trust you.
  36. You must be willing to look at what it is they’re hiding in themselves.
  37. Preserve the self-esteem of your children.
  38. Deepen your understanding of yourself, your partner, and your children.
  39. Communicate effectively with them.
  40. Engage them to an intentional dialogue with you.
  41. Be aware of the fact that there are many ways to discover the problems your children are having.
  42. Always try to see what’s in yourself and in everyone around you with a compassionate heart.
  43. Heal yourself from your own childhood wounds.
  44. Start loving in others the very thing you deplores in yourself.
  45. Listen to what your children have to say. Dialogue teaches you how to listen to them.
  46. See them for who they are; they could teach you many things.
  47. Never assign unacceptable traits or behaviors to them that are actually part of your missing self.
  48. Think of your difficulties as gifts.
  49. You must know that it is not good to inflict emotional pain on your children in order to motivate them.
  50. Take it easy. There’s no perfect formula for parenting. But you would surely learn a lot from experience and from the mistakes you’re making which could only make you a better parent.

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