How to deal with your child’s curiosity about knowing the existence of a God

Nathaniel and his mom waved at the image of a crucified Jesus inside the Basilica del Santo Nino Church in Cebu City, Philippines.

Young children are naturally curious. They want to know just about anything and that’s fine. But what if your child asks you something you don’t quite expect a young mind would come up with? Like, for example, your child is asking you on whether God exists or not.

How are you going to explain it to your child? Of course, you would be saying “yes, God exists.” But what if your child is not totally convince yet and, instead, wants you to explain further by asking: “If God exists, why does he allow suffering?”

I think it’s best to tell your child what you know about it, to the best of your ability, even if he or she may never come to understand it yet. But what if there’s no God? Would this affect the kind of parenting you’re now introducing to your child?

And if somebody’s going to ask you the same question, what should your answer be? If God exists, why does he allow suffering? You may try to reflect at my answer to such a question below, thus enjoy reading:

I have long ago dismissed the argument about whether God existed or not. I have read lots of atheistic writings from vocal and famous atheists and existentialists and the more that I read and internalized their works, the more I was plunged into the light of truth which further cemented my belief in a deity.

Back in college, a colleague of mine was trying to convince me, even to the point of lecturing me, about his newfound philosophy based upon the books he read. He quoted something from German philosopher Nietzsche’s existentialist book titled Thus Spoke Zarathustra, saying: “God is dead.” Having read about Marx’s stand on atheism, I simply told him that his claim was weak because to say that “God is dead” meaning to say he came to exist, although he’s dead.

I even instructed my colleague by saying: “This is how you should say it: ‘God did not exist.'” Of course, I lied to him, because deep in my heart I know there is God.

But, if God exists, why does he allow suffering? Is it wrong to ask why God allows all the troubles and sufferings in the world? The prophet Habakkuk had one time asked God: “Why do you make me witness wrongdoing? And why do you tolerate oppression? Why are destruction and violence before me? And why do quarreling and conflict abound?” (Habakkuk 1:3.)

But do we really have to blame God for all the suffering in the world? The Bible has the answer as it clearly states in 1st John chapter five, verse nineteen: “The whole world is lying in the power of the wicked one.”

This world was dominated and reflects the personality of the invisible spirit creature who is “misleading the entire inhabited earth.” (Revelation chapter twelve, verse nine.) Satan is hateful, deceptive, and cruel. So the world, under his influence, is full of hatred, deceit, and cruelty. That is one reason why there is so much suffering.

It was very interesting how God handled rebellion in heaven long time ago. When Lucifer rebelled against God, and wanted to be like God, he allowed him to become how it would be like.

And when Satan, the Great Evil Beast, together with his minions, was cast down to the earth, and with the Fall of Man in Eden, God has allowed him to show how he would rule mankind. God has also allowed humans to govern themselves under Satan’s guidance.

But why has the Almighty Father allowed suffering to continue for so long and why has He not prevented such things as horrible crimes?

God has not helped Satan to rule this world. If God were to prevent horrible crimes, for instance, would he not, in effect, be supporting the case of the rebels? Would God not be making people think that perhaps humans can govern themselves without disastrous results? If God were to act in that way, he would become party to a lie. However, “it is impossible for God to lie.” (Hebrews 6:18.)

So what would God do about all the harm that has resulted from the rule of humans and the influence of Satan?

The effects of sin would be removed through faith in Jesus’ ransom sacrifice, and the effects of death would be reversed by means of the resurrection. God would so use Jesus, as what the Bible has told in 1st John chapter three, verse eight: “The one who does what is sinful is of the devil, because the devil has been sinning from the beginning. The reason the Son of God appeared was to destroy the devil’s work.”

God would bring all of this about at just the right time. We can be glad that he has not acted sooner, for his patience, as could be read in 2nd Peter chapter three, verses nine to ten, has given us the opportunity to learn the truth and to serve him.

For the time being, to quote from the book of John chapter four, verse twenty-three, God has been actively seeking sincere worshipers and helping them to endure any suffering that may come upon them in this troubled world.


How to encourage the young kids to be curious right in our own backyard

Nathaniel is seen brushing his slippers in this picture.

Every parent should know that their young kids need places and time to explore for the reason that they’re learning best through direct, first hand experiences with the people and objects in the world around them. However, we must as well be careful to ensure that their safety is not sacrificed. Parents need to be supervising for the safety limits of their kids because their curiosity could also lead them into danger.

Young children are so curious in such a way that they would use all of their senses in developing security and confidence as they wonder, explore, discover, and gain knowledge for themselves right in their own backyard or nearby park. Such a concrete learning is a vital foundation for future abstract, symbolic (pencil and paper) learning in books and school.

A child’s curiosity could be spurred or triggered through a variety of experiences indoors and out, whether at home, in the community, or anywhere else. We could take our kids to the nearest zoo, children’s museum, children’s park, or even on a hike at a local forest park. Children may also find the following places to be fun and interesting: TV station, lumberyard, bakery, construction site, airport, factory, and so on.

Introduce the child to the proper use of a magnifying glass as this would help him or her in observing objects in more detail. When we take our child to a garden of flowers, right in our own backyard, and to ask him or her if he or she ever really looked inside a flower is to give him or her such a chance of looking and seeing what’s inside the bud. And it’s all because of your interest.

There are lots of ways in which we could encourage curiosity in our children wherever they are and may be, beginning from such a simple observation and explanation of ordinary things to the more complex ones. Our children would learn a lot from us as much as we would from them. But, as parents, we should learn to take initiatives. We should be making the first move on what could be good for our children.

How to genuinely help motivate our kids

To motivate our kids, we need to look at all the ways we could kindle, not dampen, the fires of motivation within them.

We parents have high hopes for our kids. We would do everything to keep them inspired for learning, for achievement, and for success in life. We want them to grow up equipped with everything they need to have for a better life.

But, then, despite our best intentions, we would still find many of them to be less motivated. It has become one of our biggest concerns as parents. But how do we, in fact, motivate our children?

How are we going to solve such a dilemma?

Try interacting with some of these kids and you would be struck by their great expectations for the future. Kids are, naturally, day-dreamers and they come to believe what they are capable of imagining.

Some kids would find it most interesting to gain fame and fortune as movie stars. Some would try to make a name for themselves like a career in sports, wanting to be great boxers like Manny Pacquiao or to represent their country in the Olympics.

Others would love to seek adventure and travel, in a hope to go around the world and learn other cultures and languages. You’d find some of their dreams to be fanciful, like wanting to climb Mount Everest, or to jump off a plane at an altitude of ten thousand feet.

And, yet, you’d find out more of these children’s hopes are serious. One would be staring at you straight in the eye to declare: “I would stop all drugs!” Another one would say: “I would make lots of money so that when I became rich I would help the poor and the homeless.”

To motivate our kids, we need to be looking at all the ways we could kindle, instead of dampening, the fires of motivation within them. We could nurture such a precious spark within each child starting right from our home. Then we could try spreading it outside our home, into such areas as schooling, life, chores, and responsibilities.

We should be making sure that communication lines between us and our kids are open, because it is one way to boost learning and motivation. When parents and children are warmly interested in each other and their activities, to quote from author Dorothy Corkille Briggs, when children feel safe to share ideas and feelings, intellectual growth is stimulated.

The importance of helping the child to learn who his or her parents are while the child is learning who he or she is

Every time you interact with your child is an opportunity for you to learn who you are, who your child is, and how you could best meet his or her needs.

Whether you like it or not, as your child grows up, he or she is more than capable of engaging in the process of becoming his or her own person because of a remarkable built-in potential he or she has had since birth. His experience would enable him or her to develop the ability to store the image of his or her parents in his or her mind. He or she would continue to explore the world with a new purpose.

It is important for you to know that in his or her pursuit of something new he or she doesn’t leave the past behind. The experiences he’s or she’s had in previous stages are part of him or her forever.

You should be there to provide structure by allowing your child to express all of himself or herself and by way of teaching appropriate form of self-expression.

With the birth of your baby, it changes your life forever. You would no longer be looking after your own personal interests, but in the interest of giving your child the best foundation possible. You would be changing what needs to, like your sleeping and eating schedules as well as your other usual habits like watching television et cetera.

There are times when you try to resist these changes, but, then, as you tried to ponder on the fact about considering the degree of influence you have over your baby’s growing brain, and the short interval of the first two or three years it takes to form that brain, you made up your mind by realizing what a privilege it was to be such a positive force in your child’s life.

Upon seeing the incremental growth in your infant, each passing day, you would know that all your efforts were worth any temporary loss of sleep or other changes in your life. You would learn, eventually, that what helps shape the neurological connections of infants who are later seen as smart, capable, and competent, are the environmental engineering as well as the direct input from the parents.

The choices of routines you’re going to establish with your baby from day one, and the effect of these routines on your baby’s future is of the utmost importance. You could give your child as much a variety of stimulating experiences as you want.

Unlike most teachers who learn their craft through training and experience, a new parent with a firstborn child has the benefit of neither. You would need no training manual. But you must learn what you could from the experience itself.

Every time you interact with your child is an opportunity for you to learn who you are, who your child is, and how you could best meet his or her needs. And as your child gets older, you would learn through trial and error when to press a point, when to express a personal opinion, and when to let your child come to his or her  own conclusions and learn from his or her own mistakes.

The importance of diversity in education for our kids

Nathaniel colors a flower illustration in the book.

Since each child has different level of needs, interests, and ways of learning, there must be a school that offers a variety of educational approaches. It is about creating a system that, instead of trying to fit young children into some standardized school, has a school to fit every child in the community where they belong. The same thing should best apply to teachers as well as, actually and in fact, there’s no single best school for every teacher.

The fact that human beings are so extraordinarily diverse, it has become increasingly important for every community to develop such a differing program which, in turn, frees up teachers to facilitate this process as well. Teachers are empowered when they’re allowed to try new things, meet new needs, and so on and so forth. In the case with young children with divergent learning styles or special needs, such an approach would be the key in building diversity into the system, allowing a school system to be responsive to different needs, on the part of both teachers and kids.

But what if such a method is not yet available in the community where these children live? If that’s the case, then it’s the parents’ initiative to fill in the void for that matter. It is important for parents to know of the fact that getting an education is not limited to what was being taught in schools alone, but what one would be learning outside of it as well. Each child must be taught in a case to case basis, being that parents are the ones who know very well the every little facet of their kids’ personality.

In fact, the notion that the school could be hermitically sealed and could do it without the parents is an illusion. Education should be a system that empowers individuals, where there are no unworthy seekers of knowledge, and that parents play a significant role in which they could forge ties in their children’s schools.

Finding authentic love and communion through fatherhood

Nathaniel was only six months old when this picture was taken.

It must be learned from the Heavenly Father. God is the Father who takes care of His children. He watches over and guards all of His creation. God has mastered the art of parenting.

He is the Father of the fatherless, to quote from the Book of Psalm chapter sixty-eight, verse five, and defender of widows. God cares so much for His children, so that when everything seemed to go wrong for the human race because of sin, He sent His only begotten Son to save them (John chapter three, verse, sixteen). God so much loved the blemished human beings that He wanted them cleansed through the blood of His Son, Jesus.

God created man in His own image and likeness. Man was called into existence through love and for love. It’s a vocation, a calling inscribed in the humanity of man and wife by God, and so the capacity and responsibility, of love and communion. To love, therefore, is to exercise or express such a fundamental and innate vocation of every human being.

Man couldn’t live without love as each person is called to make such a fundamental commitment—to love. The husband’s love to his wife should be without measure, except that it is truly just a gift of self; just the full, free gift of one’s being. This love that the Almighty Father and the Son give and receive is the Holy Spirit, who could be called their gift, their bond, even their communion.

The Holy Spirit, though, is not being exchanged between the Father and the Son. It’s not that the Holy Spirit has become something that’s traded, calculated, or measured—it’s not something like that. But like the Father and the Son, he, too, is holy, infinite, immense, and eternal.

Man and wife, called to live in a communion of love, were created by God to unite them as one in their common humanity. Their union in love should mirror in the world the communion of love that is in God.

A connection between human experience and the design of the Creator for human action must be fully established. To understand love is to understand the Creator’s design for his created order through an experience that everyone shares. To experience love is to experience fully the laws of nature.

All created things are connected. In the case with humans, the circumstances of their birth reflect that of the mechanics of the universe. And there’s such a great yearning for every human being for connection. A man, therefore, would find his understanding deepened when he is drawn, by imagination and observation, to patterns of interaction and connection.

He (a man) must become sensitive to the energy flow between different forms of life—the interactive energy between different things that helps define and shape each element—and the interaction that includes them both in the experience of dynamic connectedness and unity of all things.

This relational perspective should help shape man’s personal view of parenting as a dynamic relationship of a father and son’s love for one another, the husband and wife’s love for one another, the Church and Christ’s love for one another, and for everyone’s love for one another, where there’s perfect unity in difference, and one which is infinitely fruitful.

Fatherhood is such that makes every man become a living witness to the Creator’s design for marriage and family—in what was a union in love and mutual self-donation in welcoming new life as a fruit and sign of love for one another—every single day of his life. He must encounter love, experience and make it his own, and to participate intimately in it.

The importance of introducing spiritual training in the home

My four-year-old son, Nathaniel, in one of his somber-looking poses before the camera.

According to child experts, the first five to seven years of a child’s life is crucial to the attitudes he or she may develop, which could become almost permanent. Parents should need to be aware of the fact that when the opportunities of these early years are missed, they’re gone forever. Hence, if you want your son or daughter to possess all the qualities of a good, well-mannered child, you should be making these (good) characteristics the conscious objectives of your early teaching.

Contrary to other people’s belief, heredity does not equip a child with character and that the parents couldn’t be expecting character to appear magically unless they have done their homework early.


Don’t you know about how a duck came to be? After a young duckling hatches from its shell, the duckling instinctively would be attaching itself to its mom, but if the mom is removed, it would settle for any moving object. A group of researchers revealed that, in fact, the duckling would most easily bond itself to a blue football bladder that’s being dragged in front of it on a string.

A week after this process started, it would fall behind the blue bladder whenever it scoots by. To whatever extent or degree, time is the crucial factor. It must be noted that the duckling is susceptible to bonding for only a few seconds after it was hatched from its shell. Therefore, if such a precious opportunity for imprinting is lost, it couldn’t be taken back later.

In the same way that a youngster between one and seven years of age is most susceptible to religious training, so that his or her of right and wrong is formed during this time as well as his or her ideas of God take shape. And just like the duckling, the opportunity of such a time period must be seized when the child is ready, not when the parents are ready.

But yet, unfortunately, the opposite is also true. When you’re depriving a child of spiritual training, or subjecting him or her to the misapplication of it, you’re severely limiting his or her capacity in reaching spiritual maturity. Don’t wait until your child is old enough to decide for himself if he or she wants religion, you had almost guaranteed that he or she would be deciding against it.


It is but normal for every child to ask questions, lots of questions, from his or her earliest years. Consider such times as an opportunity for you teach, to instruct, and to fill your child’s young mind with the very best character-building material available.

You could do it by reading stories, most particularly love stories. There are two advantages when you read character-building stories to your child. When you answer your child’s questions from good books, you’re teaching without preaching. That’s one thing. Now, here’s the other one: by doing so, you have given your child time and companionship. Remember, nothing spells love more than your personal in his thoughts and questions.

A many religious teachings may hold little meaning for a child during his or her early childhood and primary school years, that’s why it is of the utmost importance for parents to learn to translate these religious concepts into terms that their kids could understand.


Try setting up a regular time for family devotions and make no exceptions unless absolutely necessary. You should be deciding upon a time, either morning or evening or both, and create the habit regardless of who is in your home. Study the Bible and read through its pages. Make the Bible interesting to your child. Go to church and worship together as a family.

Character is an engraving, as what the ancient Greeks come to define it. The kind of permanent inscription you would like to be deeply etched into the very heart and soul of your child is all up to you.