Every parent would be very glad seeing their children growing up to be reliable persons and who could do things on their own. There’s that awkward feeling at first like when you realize that your kids wouldn’t need your assistance at all because they’re more than capable of doing it on their own.
Teaching them simple things such as how to tie their own shoe, arrange books, wash their hands, and so on, would one day pay off. They would thank you for that, but it’s you who should be most thankful for having done the right thing. Remember that you wouldn’t be doing such a kind of thing for your kids forever because, whether you like it or not, there comes a time when you have to let go because your kids could try or do it on their own.
But how prepared are you for such a day? Were you able to empower your children just like the way you want them to be? Were you able to send them out into the world with a strong sense of self-worth and confidence? Were your ways of motivating them effective enough to give them the upper hand in both their personal and professional relationships?
You’re not perfect as a parent, but it’s your job to keep your children alive, well-fed, and taken care of. You have got to make them but the best version of themselves. You have to empower them.
Here’s how you could do it better:
HELP THEM BECOME RESPONSIBLE PERSONS
You could start by giving them responsibility. Teach them to accept responsibility for their actions. Encourage them to stop the blame game and start accepting responsibility.
TEACH THEM HOW TO BE PATIENT
Well, the best way to teach patience is to practice patience. Be a model for patience before your children. Engage them in activities that require patience.
GIVE YOUR KIDS SOMETHING TO CARE FOR
It could be anything, maybe a plant or a pet. It might be just an ordinary task but when children start seeing the direct result of their care for something, it would give them a sense of pride nothing else could.
MAKE THEM LEARN THE VALUE OF RESPECT
Chances are, if you’re not teaching your kids respect it would eventually lost. When children respect themselves and those around them, it would serve them best in almost everything they do.
LET THEM BE SELF-SUFFICIENT
I think I wouldn’t find this one hard to implement for my four-year-old son, Nathaniel, as he’s so eager to take things all by himself. When I tried to teach him something, he first would listen and observe. The next thing you’ll see was that he’s doing it all by himself and he just wouldn’t allow you to intervene.
The good thing about self-sufficient kids is that they may be even more capable of helping others around them as their needs they could take care themselves.
TEACHING THEM HOW TO BE GRATEFUL
Naturally, children are materialistic and self-serving persons. But, the good thing is, we could teach them how to be grateful. And from thankfulness flows joy.
Once kids learn gratitude, they become sensitive to the feelings of others. They would be able to develop empathy and other skills along the way.
Be a role model for gratitude. Encourage generosity. Name your blessings.