Why smiling is good for a child

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My four-year-old son flashes one of his most beautiful smiles.

Smile is one of the world’s most powerful gestures. It is the symbol that should be rated with the highest emotional content. It impacts our brain, health, and outlook on life—for all the positive reasons.

Smiling could do a lot of good things to a child. We parents must be aware of the fact that a simple smile could make our baby feel safe and secure. By simply smiling at our baby, we’re helping him boost his brain development.

When we’re smiling at a child, it helps in playing a part in bonding and attachment, making him feel secure and safe, as well as allowing him to develop the ability on learning about the world around him and within him. A child would be reading our face and to use our facial expressions as a guide to the world of his own. We must know that when our child gets lots of smiles, it could tell him a lot about his world. It’s when he’s in a secure place feeling safe, and that people around him are responding well to his needs.

It is important to note that, for the most part, smiles are the first building blocks for healthy relationships. And we must know, too, that when the relationships are healthy, they are crucial for our child’s early development. It is through these relationships that a child learns how to think, communicate, understand, interact, express, and show emotions.

To give and to receive smiles are the first steps a child is taking in order to learn how to be social as well as in having good relationships with everyone. Of course, not every single response parents are giving is vital, but the more often parents smile at their child, the better, as each smile a child sees from his parents sends a great message. We should remember that no act of smiling, no matter what the situation is, is ever wasted.

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Five simple ways to make a happy child

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We should make them feel like the world is still a beautiful place in which to live, in spite of everything.

All parents just want their children to be happy. But not only that, we also want them to grow up into the best person that they could be. But the big question is: “How much control do we have over our children’s happiness and success for that matter?”

What makes a happy child? What makes him become successful in his chosen field and in life? What could we do to increase the odds that our children would have been achieving these things?

We may try these five simple ways to make happy and successful children:

Help them feel connected. The keyword is “connectedness.” We must make them feel they are loved, acknowledged, understood, and wanted. We must make them feel they are important to us. We must show them unconditional love.

Hug them. Kiss them. Respond with empathy to their cries. Be with them, eat with them, and laugh with them. The more connections we’re making our children with, the better.

We must not be too cynical. We should curb our cynicism. When we’re cynical about just everything, it could take a huge toll on our children’s sense of security, which is considered a crucial component of happiness. Instead, we should make them feel like the world is still a beautiful place in which to live, in spite of everything.

Don’t grant them their every wish and desire. We must focus on our children’s long-term happiness by not putting them in a bubble and grant their every wish and desire. Normally, kids would have their own ways of interpreting for what they grow to expect which the real world doesn’t always work that way.

We should allow our kids to develop such coping skills and resilience they would need to bounce back from life’s inevitable setbacks. We should help them learn in dealing with negative emotions.

Help them find their passion and praise them for it. We should be exposing our kids to a wide range of experiences to see what appeals to them. We should help them develop their ability to totally immerse themselves in an activity they love as that would give them a leg up on happiness throughout their lives.

Make mealtime a positive experience from an early age. When we’re eating with our kids together in a round table, it is important to make sure we raise positive topics to discuss with them. It is through such time when we’re eating healthily, under pleasant, unhurried conditions that would make us feel better in both body and spirit.

Six simple ways every father can do to build a peaceful and happy home

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In the children’s play area inside a mall. Nathaniel was a little less than two years old in this picture.

To have a peaceful and happy home life is every family man’s dream. A wise father knows that it is not about the absence of problems, conflicts, and challenges. It is not about walking away from your responsibility to the children you were generating.

Rather, it is about facing each one of them, one problem at a time. You have got to be proactive, find solutions to a problem, learn from every mistake, and to try your best to promote love and create peace in the home. That has been my dream, too. But I know it will take time to achieve that and there’s a lot of work to do in the process.

Fatherhood has taught me many things from day one and I know there’s still a lot more to learn from it along the way. I’m blessed to have a good looking son in Nathaniel, but this role of fatherhood I will consider as a gift that comes with responsibility. Anyways, here are six ways I’m learning from personal experience on what every father can do to build a peaceful and happy home:

START IT WITH YOURSELF

It should start from you. You should be the person you are happy, contented, and peaceful to be with. You are responsible for everything you would like to see. So that when you’re feeling down, defeated, or lacking sense of hope within, you’re projecting the same thing to the world and back to you.

YOU SHOULD BE FLEXIBLE

If you can combine the toughness of the drill sergeant and the tenderness of a nurse in your own person, then that’s it. Once you’re through with it, it will be easy for you then to combine the strengths of these two characters while making every mistake a learning experience.You have to possess the toughness of a master while, at the same time, you’re also capable of showing the loving affection of a father to your children.

PROMOTE A DEEPER SENSE OF EQUALITY

This does not always mean that each member of the family will be getting the same thing or have a uniform treatment. But it could as well mean that every family member will be treated according to his or her particular needs.

TAKE TIME TO LISTEN

By taking time to listen to other people’s needs, you’re opening the door that leads you to a higher form of understanding. This sensitivity towards the needs of others is the foundation of a peaceful community which, of course, begins in the family.

LEARN TO FORGIVE, AND FORGET

A peaceful and happy home is not like a work of magic. It’s not like a mushroom that grows in full swing overnight. There are always problems to solve, conflicts to iron out, and relationships to repair.

You have got to be realistic in your approach but as well an optimistic one. A wise father learns to accept these facts about family life. You should know that you have a responsibility to wade in, problems to solve, and a real forgiveness to offer to those who have done you wrong.

MAKE YOUR FAMILY A COMMUNITY OF PRAYER

It has been said that a family that prays together, stays together. You should, therefore, make your own family a community of prayer. In praying, though, you have to make it as natural as it can be. If you can make it short but sincere, is better. Remember, God already know what your needs are before you can even start praying it all to Him.