Help your kids develop confidence without overpressuring them

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Make your child feel that you care for him by recognizing how he’s grown and learned over a particular thing.

Without self-confidence, your child is most likely to fail in a sense that it is considered an essential ingredient for all aspects of your child’s healthy development. It is also such a key ingredient in which school success may be gauged or determined. But how would you be able to help your children develop confidence without the so much, sometimes unnecessary pressure imposed upon them?

You may try the following tips, hoping these may work out well for you.

BE RESILIENT

Be the person you want to see in your child. Teach him resilience by being resilient yourself. You have to remember that, no matter how hard you try, no one succeeds at everything all the time.

There would be failures, setbacks, criticisms, hurts, and so on. Use these things as a learning stage for him. Offer solutions, and encourage your child about him doing better next time. Because when he does succeed, after a failure or a series of failures, he would take pride of his accomplishments.

BE SUPPORTIVE

When you find out that your child is passionate about something, support him for it. Respect and encourage his personal interests, yes, even if you don’t find them interesting at all. Supporting him, however, does not mean you’re giving him free reign to do it even to the point when it’s already interfering with his other responsibilities like personal care or schoolwork.

CELEBRATE YOUR CHILD’S SUCCESSES

Make your child feel that you care for him by recognizing how he’s grown and learned over a particular thing. Take note of his accomplishments and assure him that you’re always there to guide and to help.

GIVE YOUR CHILD UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

This would explain everything. It’s probably the most important thing you could give your child. When your child feels accepted and loved, it builds a very strong foundation for confidence. You don’t need to be a perfect parent at all, and who is? But your unconditional love would make up for all the imperfections.

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Teaching kids to be resilient through the simple task of interacting with them every single day

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My son learns to cut his own fingernails all by himself.

Teaching kids how to be resilient is supposed to be an easy task. It should be done on a daily basis of problem-solving activities between a parent and a child over a particular thing. However, it wouldn’t always come out as easy as expected.

Parents will be so filled with serious responsibilities while kids, on the other hand, take the challenge of learning new things as they grow up. So how can parents teach resilience to their kids without sacrificing what they can do for their own?

Children looked up to their parents as models. Parents must be models of resilience to their kids in the first place.

No one is born a resilient person already. Resilience is something that is acquired, practiced, and learned. And because it is something that is learned, therefore, it can be taught.

One way for parents to teach resilience to their kids is by gearing them up in such a way that they will be equipped with the skills that could handle the unexpected. Sure, our culture has taught us about making sure our children are comfortable but it doesn’t have to be that way all the time.

This is not going to be a way of suggesting that a child must be put through the same pain that his parents went through like what symbiotic parents are doing to their children. The point is to get the kids taught in handling uncertainty and as a problem-solver.

Problem solving is a fact of life. We do it every day, and everywhere. When a parent teaches his child how to solve problems, he’s teaching him how to live. After all, life is all about solving problems.

Parents must engage their kids in figuring out how they could handle challenges. Start it from simple tasks, then to hard, and hardest. They must be given the opportunity, time and again, to figure out what works from what does not.

Along with teaching these children about figuring out how they could take challenges, teaching them concrete skills is equally important. A good parent must ask himself or herself these questions: Where are we heading with this situation? What skill do my kids need, by which I could teach, getting there?

Another thing is for parents to let their children make mistakes. Failure doesn’t mean the end of the world or everything. But to fail and to realize such a failure is to learn to figure out what to do next. Children must be taught to see the consequences of their actions.