Five simple ways to make a happy child

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We should make them feel like the world is still a beautiful place in which to live, in spite of everything.

All parents just want their children to be happy. But not only that, we also want them to grow up into the best person that they could be. But the big question is: “How much control do we have over our children’s happiness and success for that matter?”

What makes a happy child? What makes him become successful in his chosen field and in life? What could we do to increase the odds that our children would have been achieving these things?

We may try these five simple ways to make happy and successful children:

Help them feel connected. The keyword is “connectedness.” We must make them feel they are loved, acknowledged, understood, and wanted. We must make them feel they are important to us. We must show them unconditional love.

Hug them. Kiss them. Respond with empathy to their cries. Be with them, eat with them, and laugh with them. The more connections we’re making our children with, the better.

We must not be too cynical. We should curb our cynicism. When we’re cynical about just everything, it could take a huge toll on our children’s sense of security, which is considered a crucial component of happiness. Instead, we should make them feel like the world is still a beautiful place in which to live, in spite of everything.

Don’t grant them their every wish and desire. We must focus on our children’s long-term happiness by not putting them in a bubble and grant their every wish and desire. Normally, kids would have their own ways of interpreting for what they grow to expect which the real world doesn’t always work that way.

We should allow our kids to develop such coping skills and resilience they would need to bounce back from life’s inevitable setbacks. We should help them learn in dealing with negative emotions.

Help them find their passion and praise them for it. We should be exposing our kids to a wide range of experiences to see what appeals to them. We should help them develop their ability to totally immerse themselves in an activity they love as that would give them a leg up on happiness throughout their lives.

Make mealtime a positive experience from an early age. When we’re eating with our kids together in a round table, it is important to make sure we raise positive topics to discuss with them. It is through such time when we’re eating healthily, under pleasant, unhurried conditions that would make us feel better in both body and spirit.

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What makes people really happy

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Touched by God.

If you’re going to ask me what happiness is all about, then I’m going to give you my personal point of view on the subject matter. Happiness means different things to different people. Some people may think that material things will bring them happiness. While others believe that peace of mind is what could make them feel really happy. It has become more of a personal choice of belief and a lot of people are doing everything, working all their lives, chasing it.

But what really makes people happy? If material things, money, and earthly possessions are what can bring happiness for some people, then why would we still be hearing sad endings of the lives of these very same people we thought to have already had gotten everything they wanted. So there’s a loophole here we are going to find out in that sense, a missing link.

Not even Solomon, in all his glory, wealth, and wisdom, could make himself convinced and declare with great conviction that he was able to find true happiness in the abundance of what he got. Instead, he suggested about the vanity of all things under the sun. All the things in the world couldn’t make him really happy.

So what is happiness all about? Again, if you’re going to ask me what it is all about, you have to allow me to share or give you my personal opinion on the subject matter. The following are what can make me feel truly happy:

I FEEL HAPPY DOING WHAT I LOVE

Writing is my passion and it is what I always love doing. People may not care to read what I have written but I don’t care, it doesn’t matter. But I’m happiest when I know I was able to touch people’s lives, heal those who have been terribly hurt, and encourage personal transformation through my works.

I FEEL HAPPY BEING FREE

I’m going to be specific on this, and that’s personal freedom I’m trying to mean. Everybody needs to have freedom to varying degrees, but to have personal freedom is something else. When you’re free to do what you like and in a positive way, you’re giving yourself the gift of happiness.

I FEEL HAPPY KNOWING MY PURPOSE IN LIFE

Happiness is being where God wants you to be, no matter where it is. When you know you’re doing something for the glory of God, is where true happiness could be found.

I FEEL HAPPY BEING NOT TOO OBSESSED IN CHASING HAPPINESS

You cannot find true happiness in thinking too hard about the things that can make you happy especially to the point of focusing towards something you want to a fault and you’re not already enjoying the whole thing. Happiness is about just going about your life, knowing there are failures and victories you are going to face, and enjoying the whole ride.

I FEEL HAPPY BEING A DAD

The moment I decided to actively, passionately, and consciously participate in the life of my son (that’s when the fatherhood thing finally sinks in upon me), is when I discovered joy. I learned to take care of myself because I know I had a son who needs me now. No words could describe the happiness I felt in that very moment I held my son in my arms for the first time.

I FEEL HAPPY BEING A FAMILY MAN

I feel happy that, as a family man, I could put my family’s happiness before my own. I know that in that way, I’m ultimately having a more joy-filled life.

Six simple ways every father can do to build a peaceful and happy home

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In the children’s play area inside a mall. Nathaniel was a little less than two years old in this picture.

To have a peaceful and happy home life is every family man’s dream. A wise father knows that it is not about the absence of problems, conflicts, and challenges. It is not about walking away from your responsibility to the children you were generating.

Rather, it is about facing each one of them, one problem at a time. You have got to be proactive, find solutions to a problem, learn from every mistake, and to try your best to promote love and create peace in the home. That has been my dream, too. But I know it will take time to achieve that and there’s a lot of work to do in the process.

Fatherhood has taught me many things from day one and I know there’s still a lot more to learn from it along the way. I’m blessed to have a good looking son in Nathaniel, but this role of fatherhood I will consider as a gift that comes with responsibility. Anyways, here are six ways I’m learning from personal experience on what every father can do to build a peaceful and happy home:

START IT WITH YOURSELF

It should start from you. You should be the person you are happy, contented, and peaceful to be with. You are responsible for everything you would like to see. So that when you’re feeling down, defeated, or lacking sense of hope within, you’re projecting the same thing to the world and back to you.

YOU SHOULD BE FLEXIBLE

If you can combine the toughness of the drill sergeant and the tenderness of a nurse in your own person, then that’s it. Once you’re through with it, it will be easy for you then to combine the strengths of these two characters while making every mistake a learning experience.You have to possess the toughness of a master while, at the same time, you’re also capable of showing the loving affection of a father to your children.

PROMOTE A DEEPER SENSE OF EQUALITY

This does not always mean that each member of the family will be getting the same thing or have a uniform treatment. But it could as well mean that every family member will be treated according to his or her particular needs.

TAKE TIME TO LISTEN

By taking time to listen to other people’s needs, you’re opening the door that leads you to a higher form of understanding. This sensitivity towards the needs of others is the foundation of a peaceful community which, of course, begins in the family.

LEARN TO FORGIVE, AND FORGET

A peaceful and happy home is not like a work of magic. It’s not like a mushroom that grows in full swing overnight. There are always problems to solve, conflicts to iron out, and relationships to repair.

You have got to be realistic in your approach but as well an optimistic one. A wise father learns to accept these facts about family life. You should know that you have a responsibility to wade in, problems to solve, and a real forgiveness to offer to those who have done you wrong.

MAKE YOUR FAMILY A COMMUNITY OF PRAYER

It has been said that a family that prays together, stays together. You should, therefore, make your own family a community of prayer. In praying, though, you have to make it as natural as it can be. If you can make it short but sincere, is better. Remember, God already know what your needs are before you can even start praying it all to Him.